It's like we are reduced to robotic reactions without realizing it--reactions that consume time and energy, make you feel helpless, and rob you of your quality of life.
, initiates a living process that allows you to stop the clock and think about how, or whether, to respond to any event, regardless of its severity. This course of action
to seize the moment and take back your quality of life.
be more fulfilled by what you do, and be true to yourself in a culture where being authentic is an unnatural way of living.
How would it make you feel to have the time to freely live your life? Where would you travel to? How would you design your life? What kind of livelihood would you direct your new found energies toward? What kind of relationships would you cultivate and nurture?In a world where our life experience is continually defined by stress, struggle, frustration, anger, and a lack of time,
The pace that takes us from place to place, one day to the next, and from one year to another is often frantic, and it disconnects us from our own authenticity.
When you deny the very essence of your feelings and desires, you deny your authenticity.When I refer to your own authenticity, I mean being in the present moment, loving, passionate about what you are doing, in touch with your talents and gifts, inquisitive, empathetic, compassionate, expressive, giving, vulnerable, and truthful to who you are.
The beauty of having a process for dealing with events is it can be used to eliminate the experience of adversity in every area of your life, such as in romantic relationships, where Zero Adversity fosters an atmosphere more conducive to intimacy by preventing life's challenging events, negative feelings and emotions, and old resentments from contaminating your relationship space.
You have a fluctuating pool of personal resources--time, energy, attention, focus, self-confidence, and attitude. As you face events throughout the day, you invest these resources, sometimes to the point of their exhaustion. With drained resources, there are less available to invest in you.You are the protagonist in your own life play. You also happen to be the screenwriter, director, executive producer, editor, and financier of your play. If you are not happy with any aspect of your life, because outward changes begin from within, Zero Adversity can help you effect change.
Adversity has been traditionally defined by the following words--extreme hardship, suffering, difficulties, misfortune, bad luck, trouble, distress, disaster, affliction, sorrow, misery, woe, pain, trauma, and tribulation.
I am sure we can all agree that if we could eliminate the experience of adversity, we would be much happier and our lives richer, because we wouldn't be weighed down by events of the past, present, or future.You see an event as negative because you perceive it in that way--a perception from which you currently have no means of escape.
Practicing Zero Adversity allows you to escape this pattern of perceiving, because it gives you a basic process for navigating life events in a positive way.Zero Adversity has three practical steps--perceive, respond, and let go. I refer to them as practical because, when applied with intention, anyone can use them. I know they can positively impact your experiences, relationships, friendships, work, and passions because they have been impacting mine for over 30 years.
A word I have come to fully embrace is Mutatio, the Latin word for transformation. Our personality, attitude, emotions, beliefs, and feelings are in a constant state of evolution and transformation as a result of being exposed to new information and unique experiences. While some people actively seek transformation, many wait until circumstances force it upon them. I have always found it easier and more gratifying to take hold of the reins of my life and direct my own transformation.
If you want more control over your transformation, creating more space for it to happen is what Zero Adversity is about.I am not a guru or a coach, and I have no interest in being labeled as such. I see myself as a facilitator of transformation--someone who gives you a blank painter's canvas and the tools to paint with so that you can create your ever changing masterpiece of life.
I developed the three steps in Zero Adversity in order to lift the weight of everyday adversity from my shoulders and stop everyday events from draining my personal resources and corrupting my attitude and productivity. Weaving the process into my everyday life has enabled me to navigate everyday inconveniences and some of my greatest challenges and circumstances, including death, divorce, drama, disagreements, and life-altering world events.
In the high-speed, information-focused world we live in, we have come to expect things to happen quickly, making minor inconveniences seem more adverse. Misplacing your keys, a dropped cell phone call, an error message on your printer, or attempting to get across town during rush hour all have the ability to throw a wicked wrench into your day.
Some believe the events we encounter, and the experiences we have because of them, contribute to building character. This is only possible if you recognize your ability to perceive these events in a way that allows you to set the stage for a response that contributes to your personal growth.
Zero Adversity teaches you to approach life's events in a way that allows you to step back from an event, without first labeling it as negative, so that you can choose a response, if necessary, instead of simply reacting. This is important because negative reactions have a tendency to compound the effects of an event by generating further adversity in the way of fear, frustration, anxiety, stress, loss of focus, a negative attitude, lost time and energy, and reduced productivity.
As you absorb the three steps that can lead to a zero adversity life, envision how you will integrate them into your daily life. As you succeed in doing so, many of the circumstances, situations, and events you once committed large amounts of personal resources to will suddenly no longer warrant them. They will cease to have the importance you once gave them, allowing space for more freedom to experience what you really value in your life--and to do so more quickly and more often. Best of all, you will have a process for confronting any event with confidence and clarity, without disruption of your life.