I just started this book and I’m already blown away.Best. Parenting. Book. EVER.And this is coming from someone who has already invested a good deal in “Positive Parenting Solutions”, among other programs. I’ve learned a lot from PPS, but the style and language is so far from anything natural that I would ever actually say to my kids. I could never find a way to make it my own. I just couldn’t stick with it.I’ve since found other parenting coaches who are much more grounded and keep it real. But I’ve been finding that Dr. Becky really has the clearest insight and the simplest ways of describing what our kids are going through and how to help them, that I just had to try her book.Parenting does not come naturally to me. I grew up with a lot of trauma. Growing up in an alcoholic household leaves behind a lot of PTSD and triggers. My father had no coping skills. So he drank. And yelled. And he passed down his lack of coping skills to me. And while I may not drink, my first reaction to anything is to want to yell. And I don’t want my kids growing up the way I did. So I read a lot of parenting books and I try to find ways to regulate my emotions so that I don’t yell at my kids.But it’s hard. It’s all I’ve ever known.From all of my readings over the years on parenting, I still struggle with controlling my own emotions when my kids are having ‘big feelings’. It’s really been bothering me lately, because I know that if I cannot regulate mySELF, then I sure as hell am not teaching my kids how to do so. And worse, I’m showing them how to lose control when things get tough.Well….I just finished chapter 3 of “Good Inside” and I already feel like I have such a better picture as to what my kids are going through behind those tantrums. And more importantly, not only am I seeing more clearly what they’re going through, I’m fully understanding the depth of layers involved in my own reactions and how they’re truly shaping my kids. This book has stopped me in my tracks. Within the same day of parenting my kids and yelling at them in the morning, I reframed my interaction with them when they got home from school, after reading just a couple of chapters of “Good Inside”.My biggest takeaways so far:- “We all have our own jobs in the family and a child’s job is this- exploring and learning through experiencing and expressing emotions.”- “The goal is to teach our kids how to manage all of their feelings and perceptions and thoughts and urges; we are the primary vehicle for this teaching, not through lectures or logic, but through the experiences our children have with us.”- “Boundaries are not what we tell kids NOT to do. Boundaries are what we tell kids WE WILL do. Boundaries embody your authority as a parent and don’t require your child to do anything.”And the MOST impactful takeaway for me is in Dr. Becky’s discussion on what a boundary is NOT:“Here are examples of ‘not’ boundaries, but instead ways we essentially ask our kids to do our jobs for us.”"Please stop hitting your brother!""Stop running!”“Why do you have to make this so hard?"“In each of these examples, parents are asking their kids to inhibit an urge or desire that, frankly, they are developmentally incapable of inhibiting.”Mind blown. Nuff said.🤯❤️🤯❤️🤯❤️🤯❤️BUY. THIS. BOOK.