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"Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility Hardcover – October 1, 2019
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“Don’t You Know Who I Am?” has become the mantra of the famous and infamous, the entitled and the insecure. It’s the tagline of the modern narcissist.
Health and wellness campaigns preach avoidance of unhealthy foods, sedentary lifestyles, tobacco, drugs, and alcohol, but rarely preach avoidance of unhealthy, difficult or toxic people. Yet the health benefits of removing toxic people from your life may have far greater benefits to both physical and psychological health. We need to learn to be better gatekeepers for our minds, bodies, and souls.
Narcissism, entitlement, and incivility have become the new world order, and we are all in trouble. They are not only normalized but also increasingly incentivized. They are manifestations of pathological insecurity—insecurities that are experienced at both the individual and societal level. The paradox is that we value these patterns. We venerate them through social media, mainstream media, and consumerism, and they are endemic in political, corporate, academic, and media leaders.
There are few lives untouched by narcissists. These relationships infect those who are in them with self-doubt, despair, confusion, anxiety, depression, and the chronic feeling of being “not enough,” all of which make it so difficult to step away and set boundaries. The illusion of hope and the fantasy of redemption can result in years of second chances, and despondency when change never comes.
It’s time for a wake-up call. It’s time to stem the tide of narcissism, entitlement, and antagonism, and take our lives back.
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- Publisher : Post Hill Press (October 1, 2019)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 400 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1682617521
- ISBN-13 : 978-1682617526
- Item Weight : 1.34 pounds
- Dimensions : 6 x 1.1 x 9 inches
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So, here's what I learned from this book: Narcissists are self-loathing, self contemptuous severely disturbed and dysfunctional individuals, who project their self loathing, self contempt and unscrupulous actions onto others. When narcissists behave hatefully and contemptuously towards you, they're simply telling you how they feel about themselves. Emotionally stunted having the emotional maturity of children. Narcissists are small children in grown up bodies. So, if you feel comfortable having sex with Narcissists, let alone having a child with a narcissist. Having a child? With a child? You feel comfortable having sex with one who is essentially a child? Sex with Peter Pan/Wendy? WOW! Narcissists will commit crimes against you in the guise of care and concern for you. Narcissists have neither appreciation for others nor appreciation for anything. An infinitely bottomless pit of greed and ingratitude. Enough is NEVER enough for narcissists because they have no inner self control and that manifests into controlling and domineering quality of communication towards others. Narcissists mistake kindness, sincerity and integrity for weakness and stupidity. How smart is that? When you do Narcissists a kindness, they will gladly accept, then resent you for it and then PUNISH you for it. How sane is that? Narcissists will twist and distort your words to ensure that you end up offending and insulting others by proxy. Narcissists will also accuse you of their own actions, (projecting) and make you responsible for THEIR OWN actions. Turning you into the bad guy - by proxy. Very topsy turvy, crazy stuff in their brains!
The worse their severe mental disturbance/insanity, the worse they speak of others behind their backs, and the worse they speak of YOU behind your back. Narcissists slander and assassinate others' character with impunity, because they have no conscience. Smear campaigns and character assassination is the Narcissist's forte. Narcissists love gossip. Others' misfortunes are a huge source of enjoyment and satisfaction for narcissists. Narcissists neither hold themselves responsible nor accountable for their own actions and failure. It's always someone else's fault. Blaming and projecting their own failure/s onto others. Smearing their own turds onto others. Narcissists think they can walk in the rain and not get wet. There is nothing Narcissists would stoop to, to get their own way. Predatory, stalking, threat and blackmail form part of their MO. Whatever it takes to get their own way and get what they want, regardless how it affects others. Their insatiable thirst for public admiration, accolades, wealth, power and status to bolster their non existent self worth. Publicly presenting themselves as wonderful upstanding citizens, while destroying others where there are no witnesses. Humans are considered by narcissists merely as tools to be used and discarded. No-one exists nor is part of the narcissist's total and all consuming universe of self absorption and self interest.
Narcissists lie, cheat and steal. This defining trifecta of behavior goes hand in hand with their love of Money, Power and Control. If a person lies, then they most certainly will own the rest of their rogues gallery of behaviors. Lying, cheating and stealing is at the very core of their psychopathic nature. Narcissists don't share, are jealous of others, vindictive and vengeful. The cruelest coupling of Malice and Revenge. Narcissists have no insight. Do yourself a favor: AVOID NARCISSISTS LIKE THE PLAGUE. Narcissists are like the HERPES OF CIVILITY. Their insane sense of self entitlement causes them to wreak havoc and destruction wherever they are. Narcissists consider themselves above the Law. They will stop at nothing to get what they want - they would even threaten to murder one who stands in their way of getting what they want. Narcissists will isolate you from your friends and loved ones. They hijack your family and friends and turn your family and friends against you. Narcissists destroy lives, families, careers, reputations, communities and even countries. Narcissists will help you, then harm you, then blame you for it...and then PUNISH you for it! How sane is that?
That's how beyond crazy are narcissists. Their self loathing, and severely unhealthy over inflated self esteem, combined with their non-existent self worth, drives them to keep trying to convince the world that they are perfect. But...they can never convince themselves, because they know they are deeply flawed.
Apologizing is anathema to narcissists. They would much sooner prefer a direct lightning hit to their skull, than apologize. Narcissists continually seek external validation because they cannot stand to be alone in their own company. Considering Narcissists' extreme self-loathing renders them incapable of internal self validation, is it surprising their relentless pursuit of others' admiration and external validation?
Narcissists go out of their way to annihilate everything and anyone they perceive as a threat and or feel inferior to. Their all consuming inferiority complex drives them to destroy everything they wish they could have and destroy everyone they wish they could be. They have a lifelong chip on their shoulder, believing that the world owes them and have delusions that they are above the Law. The sheer magnitude of Narcissistic self entitlement defies all comprehension.
Fortunately, the world is becoming VERY MUCH MORE AWARE of how Narcissists are, and what they do. MORE AND MORE Narcissists are being exposed and held accountable, ending up with their just desserts. Their trade mark "NARCISSISTIC SMIRK" wiped off their face.
Narcissists are DANGEROUSLY DISTURBED individuals who are beyond ill, and beyond crazy. Apparently mental health facilities won't admit narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths to their facilities because they can't help or treat them. In any case, virtually all of the above anti-socials don't believe they have a problem, and don't want help/treatment/therapy. Truth and Narcissists are not friends. Therapy would mean facing up to the truth and SHARING.
Sharing is ANATHEMA to Narcs! Narcissists tend to begin with borderline crimes against others, that escalate until the Law and or KARMA catches up with them... Sooner or later...
Criminals and prison inmates mostly have severe personality disorders. Narcissists are criminals, regardless if they've yet been caught out and or imprisoned. Every hour narcissists are out of prison, they're away from home. Is it time the Law gets up to speed with the facts of this scourge of modern day life? The fact that anti-socials are endangering/destroying the balance of global peace and global stability? And the fact that so many anti-socials are in the highest echelons of power? After all, is the Law there to keep us civil?
Narcissists think they can take what they want without consequences. Narcissists are a danger to civil society.
Narcissists have no friends - they only have cohorts, accomplices and co-conspirators. A narcissist will never have your back, unless you are their cohort, accomplice and or co-conspirator. And that's conditional, because no matter who you are, once a narcissist has no further use for you, you will be discarded and abandoned in no time.
Narcissists are extremely TOXIC, DANGEROUS individuals who present a charade of being human. But they can never be human, because they do not own the qualities associated with being human - namely: empathy, compassion, conscience and sympathy. Only concerned with external appearances and external success. Lacking insight to understand that EARNED trustworthiness is the currency of life and that external success is not worthy of pursuit, because it NEVER lasts. Not having the insight to understand what they do to others, they ultimately do to themselves.
Little do Narcissists know that if they owned their conscience, they would be perfect human beings. If narcissists only understood that they can have a life filled with love, peace and abundance, if they prioritized kindness, sincerity and integrity as their behavioral default. Unfortunately, narcissists don't want love and peace. They only want infinite control over others, infinite wealth, infinite power over others, infinite attention, infinite adoration and to cause as much drama, destruction and catastrophe as possible. Mind blowing insanity hiding in plain sight! If you could be a fly on the wall in the family home of a Narcissist, and witness what happens behind closed doors, you would run screaming for the hills. The timeless classic TV series 'Keeping Up Appearances' says it all in the twisted, distorted, dysfunctional and Narcissistic nature of the aptly named Hyacinth Bucket ahem "Bouquet" (Hyacinth: a parasitic water plant that strangles and kills all plants in it's path), and the havoc she causes her long suffering husband Richard and long suffering family, neighbors and community. Tragicomedy we can all laugh and cry about, and if we have the slightest insight, we may even learn something. Narcissists spend their lives showing off and keeping up appearances. Social media seems to be tailor made for Narcissists. Narcissists are the personification of unhappiness, providing us all with a road map of how not to be. The real tragedy in life is Narcissists...
I highly recommend reading this book, because the information in it will save your sanity, save you a lot of unnecessary heartache, and may possibly save your life. Would be great if Dr Durvasula follows this up with a book specifically on How to Spot a Narcissist.
Narcissists know the words, but not the music...
'The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice' ~ Theodore Parker
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I really hope others will read this book and learn how to protect themselves from narcissists and toxic people!
Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on July 26, 2021