While many resources provide excellent theory on therapeutic parenting, many people still find themselves floundering day-to-day as they interact with their hurting children. Billy Kaplan, a Clinical Social Worker, and Christine Moers, a therapeutic parent, sat down one day to talk about some very practical ways to implement therapeutic parenting when you are in the thick of things.
I am very skeptical of most of the RAD advice out there. And my kids don't have RAD, nor have they experienced trauma in early life--they were adopted as newborns. BUT so much of this video's wisdom applies even to adopted children dealing with the loss and grief and broken "myth" of the perfect nuclear family. The more I learn about "therapeutic parenting" the more it just looks like what I try to do on my best days, even when we aren't in a crisis. I would recommend this to any parent as a way of helping kids develop social-emotional skills regardless of their overall mental health base line. I would highly recommend it to any parent by adoption, regardless of how little trauma you judge your child to have suffered. Healthy, newborn, open adoption does NOT protect children (and the adults they become) from the hurts of that loss of the first attachment figure.
An amazing and important resource for parents with children who have experienced early childhood trauma and/or have attachment disorders. It teaches an outside-the-box way of responding to these childrens' incredibly challenging behaviors that isn't punitive or shaming. It is based on some of Daniel Hughes' work on using playfulness, acceptance, curiosity and empathy as the basis of parenting hurt children, but builds upon it in a way that is healthy and healing. It also teaches some of the basics of attachment and how the normal attachments formed in early childhood are broken or damaged for many of our kids. A must-have for any adoptive or foster parent. I found out about the DVD through House Calls Counseling's amazing conference called Parenting in SPACE for parents of kids with trauma. It happens every year in the Chicago area. The therapist and therapeutic parent in this DVD are both involved in teaching and leading this conference.
I love this video I've watched it several times and I religiously follow Christine's blog. We have three girls that we adopted from foster care ages 5, 7, and 9 they all have been diagnosed with RAD and our house stays pretty "interesting" to say the least. This is the hardest form of parenting that I've researched but I do believe that it's the best and that it's our girls' only chance to heal, truly heal. We fail miserably on a day to day basis but still our goal is to become better parents to help them. Those looking for help with your hurt children please watch this!
This is one of the best resources I've come across that is helpful for therapeutic parenting—true therapeutic parenting. We are foster parents to a "spirited" young lady, and the combination of therapist and therapeutic parent is a winning combo for seeing how these tools can be actually used in your home. So often, we read and attend conferences that give the theory on how to reach these kids, but actually doing it falls apart when we get home and try and actually implement them into our daily life that is such a struggle!
This is a great resource for anyone who is parenting a child with trauma and or attachment disorders. The parenting styles would actually work with any child and if used your home will be much more calm and so will you!
I have used this with clinicians to help them learn the language to discuss working with families struggling not just with RAD but other childhood presentations needing the SPACE approach. Thank you ..