Shop top categories that ship internationally
Similar items shipping to Austria
AT
Austria
See All Buying Options
Added to

Sorry, there was a problem.

There was an error retrieving your Wish Lists. Please try again.

Sorry, there was a problem.

List unavailable.
Kindle app logo image

Download the free Kindle app and start reading Kindle books instantly on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.

Read instantly on your browser with Kindle for Web.

Using your mobile phone camera - scan the code below and download the Kindle app.

QR code to download the Kindle App

Follow the author

Dossie Easton
Follow
Something went wrong. Please try your request again later.

The New Bottoming Book 2nd Edition

by Janet W. Hardy (Author), Dossie Easton (Author)
4.5 out of 5 stars 1,205 ratings
In the early 1990s, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming -- being a submissive, masochist, slave, 'boy' or 'girl, ' or other BDSM recipient -- is as much an art as topping. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book gives even more insights and ideas about how to be a successful, popular bottom!
Read more
Previous slide of product details
  1. ISBN-10
    1890159352
  2. ISBN-13
    978-1890159351
  3. Edition
    2nd
  4. Publisher
    Greenery Press
  5. Publication date
    January 12, 2001
  6. Language
    English
  7. Dimensions
    6 x 0.5 x 9 inches
  8. Print length
    173 pages
Next slide of product details
Books%20with%20Buzz
Books with Buzz
Discover the latest buzz-worthy books, from mysteries and romance to humor and nonfiction. Explore more

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

Dossie Easton is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor who specializes in the concerns of people with alternative sexualities. A lesbian bottom, she has been active in the S/M scene since the early 1960s.

About the Author

Janet W. Hardy is a writer and sex educator, and founder of Greenery Press. She has also been published as Catherine A. Liszt and Lady Green. She is the author or co-author of eleven books, and frequently collaborates with Dossie Easton

Dossie Easton is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor who specializes in the concerns of people with alternative sexualities. A lesbian bottom, she has been active in the S/M scene since the early 1960s.

Product details

  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Greenery Press
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ January 12, 2001
  • Edition ‏ : ‎ 2nd
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Print length ‏ : ‎ 173 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1890159352
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1890159351
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 2.31 pounds
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6 x 0.5 x 9 inches
  • Best Sellers Rank: #76,059 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • Customer Reviews:
    4.5 out of 5 stars 1,205 ratings

About the author

Follow authors to get new release updates, plus improved recommendations.
Dossie Easton

Dossie Easton

Brief content visible, double tap to read full content.
Full content visible, double tap to read brief content.

Dorothy "Dossie" Easton (born February 26, 1944) is an author and family therapist based in San Francisco, California.

Bio from Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

Customer reviews

4.5 out of 5 stars
1,205 global ratings

Customers say

Customers find the book informative and helpful, particularly for newbies, and appreciate its readability as a beginner-friendly guide. Moreover, the writing style is excellent, and customers find it thought-provoking and spiritual-based, with one customer noting it provides historical context. Additionally, the book emphasizes communication and has a positive pacing. However, the emotional depth receives mixed reactions from customers.

Select to learn more

Information contentReadabilityWriting styleThought provokingInsightPacingCommunicationEmotional depth
46 customers mention "Information content"43 positive3 negative

Customers find the book informative and helpful, particularly noting it is excellent for newbies, with one customer mentioning it answers questions from A to Z.

"This book was fantastically written and very informative!..." Read more

"Excellent information that every Dom/Top should also read...." Read more

"Found it interesting and helpful. It seemed to provide a good if brief overview. Enjoyed the writing style and information." Read more

"Great informational book for people who are interested in BDSM...." Read more

39 customers mention "Readability"39 positive0 negative

Customers find the book readable and enjoyable, particularly noting it is great for beginners.

"This is a good read for those planning to start their own journey into submission...." Read more

"A great book, and partnered with The New Topping Book, these are an absolute must for the BDSM newbie...." Read more

"I really enjoyed this book. I felt like it was very well written and easy to read, inclusive of many different types of people and covering a good..." Read more

"Great book and wonderful perspective." Read more

15 customers mention "Writing style"13 positive2 negative

Customers praise the writing style of the book, finding it excellently composed, with one customer noting it is written from a more heterosexual-friendly perspective.

"My 1st BDSM book read and Wow, amazing. Very well written and easy to read, in that I didn't want to put the book down...." Read more

"well written" Read more

"This was a clear and well written book...." Read more

"This book was fantastically written and very informative!..." Read more

10 customers mention "Thought provoking"10 positive0 negative

Customers find the book thought-provoking and spiritually based, with one customer noting its positive message.

"...Very thought provoking. Highly recommend to all flavors of involvement/of interest in BDSM. Fantastic book." Read more

"...It was a very thought provoking yet very entertaining book for me." Read more

"This book really opened my eyes to a lot of things. I recommend this book for both newbies and experienced players as well as both tops and bottoms!..." Read more

"Enlightening. No wonder it is the standard text in the field. Might be due for a freshening soon....." Read more

8 customers mention "Insight"7 positive1 negative

Customers find the book insightful, providing a wonderful perspective, with one customer noting its historical context and another mentioning how it gets straight to the point.

"...It's also written from a positive and fresh perspective, which is nice. It was a very thought provoking yet very entertaining book for me." Read more

"Great book and wonderful perspective." Read more

"...section, and it's definitely not a 'how-to'...instead I found it an insightful and pleasant read for the novice bottom." Read more

"The book is formatted in a easy to read way. Gets straight to the point and has a lot of useful tips for beginners...." Read more

6 customers mention "Pacing"5 positive1 negative

Customers appreciate the pacing of the book, finding it inviting and up-to-date, with one customer noting that the information is timeless.

"...Very well written and up-to-date." Read more

"...have much to say save... I feel honoured, having read this, safe and accepted. Thank you." Read more

"...the internet, are a little outdated, but all in all the information in here is timeless and for both bottoms and tops its a book you should read." Read more

"Excelent read! Definitely a friendly, thorough and informative guide on kink/BDSM...." Read more

5 customers mention "Communication"5 positive0 negative

Customers appreciate the book's emphasis on communication, with one customer noting how it translates well for both male and female submissives.

"...It's encouraging, warm, conversational, and reminds you that positive emotions are involved, and any kind of play you want is ok...." Read more

"...The books message is positive and emphasizes communication, communication---communication...." Read more

"...; it is more explaining this new world to me and discussing much more articulately that I can express how the practice of BDSM is strengthening..." Read more

"Really good book on how to sub/bottom.......translated well for both men and women subs (bottoms)" Read more

6 customers mention "Emotional depth"4 positive2 negative

Customers have mixed reactions to the emotional depth of the book, with some appreciating its real-life anecdotes showing sensations, while others find it too sad.

"This is NOT a How To Manual but rather real-life anecdotes showing the sensations, feelings, meaning and power one can experience through a BDSM..." Read more

"...someone had recoomended it is a sad book for sad people" Read more

"...But here was a whole book on the experience of bottoming, a book that professes on page 1 to be "a celebration of sensational submissives and..." Read more

"...between alternative couples, they are tastleful and much less anecdotal in nature than some that seem to be more of a BDSM gay's memoirs...." Read more

Problematic limited scope
2 out of 5 stars
Problematic limited scope
I bought this book because I was looking for an honest philosophical discussion of BDSM and bottoming that would help me understand myself more. I wanted to unravel the problematic relationship between a desire to be debased and an antithetical strong belief in feminism. I did not find that in this book. What I found was a manifesto and a how-to book with many lost opportunities to be honest or thorough in their examination of what it means to be a bottom. This page is an example: they mention the concept of “forever roles” (the way you can wind up feeling like you are still submissive and weak and your partner can wind up still feeling dominant even when it is not play time) and they completely side-pass the opportunity to discuss the extremely problematic nature of this phenomena, instead giving some nebulous suggestion to assuage each other’s ego. What? If a man continues to feel dominant over women and I continue to feel debased and subordinate to men during my real life, that is a PROBLEM. Clearly the people who wrote this book have pledged their allegiance to the culture of BDSM and dare not speak any heretical doubts about it even for a second. Disappointing.
Hide
Thank you for your feedback
Sorry, there was an error
Sorry we couldn't load the review

Top reviews from the United States

  • Elliot
    5.0 out of 5 stars Your Bottoming Journey Starts Here
    Reviewed in the United States on September 22, 2025
    Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase
    Excellent survey of what you need to know for bottoming.
    One person found this helpful
    Helpful
     Report
  • Amazon Customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars amazing and informative read!
    Reviewed in the United States on October 13, 2024
    Format: KindleVerified Purchase
    Loved this book so much. I saw a friend of mine post this book on their story and it interested me. I also read The New Topping Book concurrently with this one and feel like I learned so much and got to think about so many aspects of my character, my inner self, my sense of identity, and so on. Wonderful educational foray into the world of sexuality, kink, and identity.
    5 people found this helpful
    Helpful
     Report
  • Ruby
    5.0 out of 5 stars Very informing!
    Reviewed in the United States on May 16, 2024
    Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase
    The book is formatted in a easy to read way. Gets straight to the point and has a lot of useful tips for beginners. The book is also in great condition and doesn't get ruined easily, even when kept in a bag.
    2 people found this helpful
    Helpful
     Report
  • John
    4.0 out of 5 stars Well worth reading...
    Reviewed in the United States on October 12, 2016
    Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase
    I'm surprised it took me so long to read this but once I found it I was glad to spend a few hours going through it. Janet Hardy takes a serious subject, how to be a safe, informed, and well prepared bottom, and treats it with logic, common sense and humor. Everyone has a different definition of what it means to be a bottom and Hardy's book helps you figure that out for yourself. Its not a how to manual, there are other books for that, it is more of a its alright to be who your are manual. Some sections, such as her dealing with the internet, are a little outdated, but all in all the information in here is timeless and for both bottoms and tops its a book you should read.
    6 people found this helpful
    Helpful
     Report
  • Rob
    5.0 out of 5 stars Very useful and very informative
    Reviewed in the United States on August 17, 2024
    Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase
    Packed with useful information for those of us who bottom. Gives a lot of historical context and explorers various aspects of bottoming. Very well written and up-to-date.
    Helpful
     Report
  • Brittany C
    5.0 out of 5 stars Informative
    Reviewed in the United States on July 21, 2021
    Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase
    Awesome book! Relatively new to the BDSM community and found this book to be helpful and informative. The authors go over in great detail all the different aspects of play and scenes and give personal examples. They also remind readers that there is no shame in someone’s desires and emphasize as long as there is communication and things are handled in a safe and consensual way, the outcomes are amazing. I was worried it would be outdated as it was published 20 years ago, but the same general principles apply well.
    8 people found this helpful
    Helpful
     Report
  • Rose Richards
    3.0 out of 5 stars Good information, but may disappoint 24/7 lifestylers
    Reviewed in the United States on October 12, 2011
    Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase
    Every now and then, over the course of the year and a quarter that I've been exploring BDSM, I've stumbled across a perfect gem: an author who voices my own unspoken thoughts more clearly than I ever thought possible. Having spent over two decades ashamed of my own need and ultimately isolated from my sexuality, I cannot overstate the value of these little glimpses into other minds that think like mine. Polly Peachum's lovely essay "The Fragrant Dust" leaves me exhilarated and stunned with recognition. Miria Hunter and Yaldah Tovah have written some of the finest essays you'll ever read on the dynamics of consensual Master/slave relationships and the psychology of submission.

    Perhaps it was a mistake to pick up "The New Bottoming Book" looking for more of the same. After all, such a perfect meeting of the minds is a rare thing. I've learned from and enjoyed plenty of articles that weren't entirely on my wavelength. But here was a whole book on the experience of bottoming, a book that professes on page 1 to be "a celebration of sensational submissives and marvelous masochists . . . of those who love to struggle and serve and scream and submit . . . of bottoms, submissives, captives, slaves, pets and all the beautiful recipients who ever peopled a kinky imagination." I hoped that here was a book that would help me understand my own sometimes mystifying needs and desires.

    And there were some passages in the book that did exactly that. There's a list in Chapter 2 of emotions that a person might wish to experience in-scene, and along with such expected items as "helplessness," "lust," "humiliation," and "being nurtured," I was pleasantly astonished to discover "martyrdom," "pathos," "resentment," "sadness." Rarely, if ever, had I seen such emotions treated as potentially normal and desirable parts of the BDSM experience, and yet they figured often in my fantasies as part of an essentially cathartic psychodrama. Obviously, seeing as how Easton and Hardy saw fit to include them in the list, there are other people who have the same needs I do to venture into the realm of quiet, dark emotions.

    Unfortunately, such moments of joyous connection were rare. Through most of the book I had the disconcerting feeling that I was waiting for something that was just out of reach, promised and even sampled, but never actually attained. I wanted to read about the psychology of submission, while the authors seemed more focused on the erotic thrills of play. Easton and Hardy seem to expect their readers to engage in scenes of limited duration, with a variety of partners, for the purpose of mutual erotic gratification. If you're involved in, or looking for, a relationship based on total power exchange, internal enslavement, and/or consensual nonconsent, you won't find much of use in these pages beyond what you'd get in any general-interest BDSM book (there are a handful of references to 24/7 D/s in these pages, but ultimately nothing of substance). If you enjoy playing at being a slave, you'll love this book. If you really want to BE a slave, the constant focus on YOUR rights, YOUR power, YOUR gratification, may be more than a little disconcerting.

    I could easily have given this book four stars, in spite of its flaws. After all, it is presented, according to the title at least, as a guide to bottoming, not to submission or enslavement. There are far more play bottoms or part-timers out there than there are dedicated 24/7 lifestylers, and Easton and Hardy might well be commended for sticking to what they know rather than trying to tackle a topic with which neither has any particular experience (both authors are switches, and Hardy actually leans more to the "top" end of the spectrum). However, since one of the purposes of this book is to help novice bottoms accept themselves, I couldn't quite forgive a couple of brief passages that actually seem to disparage 24/7 relationships. On page 30, Easton and Hardy tell us that "[t]he desire you may have to be utterly bottom, to be operated by and operated on by another, to be very small, to be owned . . . is not reasonable." I found this very disturbing, as did several of my friends. After struggling for years with this strange and shameful desire to be truly and profoundly owned, the last thing we need is to be told by our fellow BDSM'ers that we're irrational and unreasonable. I read this sentence with only a twinge of uncertainty and a great deal of annoyance, but if I had picked up this book a year earlier, I likely would have come away from it in despair that I was disturbingly deviant even by the standards of folks who like to wear leather and hang out in dungeons.

    If you are a play bottom, this might be the most useful book you'll ever read. If you're a slave at heart, however, although you may find a few valuable nuggets scattered among these pages, I definitely recommend that you begin your literary explorations elsewhere.
    175 people found this helpful
    Helpful
     Report
  • Fun Mom
    5.0 out of 5 stars Power and meaning that BDSM can create for a practitioner.
    Reviewed in the United States on October 12, 2018
    Format: KindleVerified Purchase
    This is NOT a How To Manual but rather real-life anecdotes showing the sensations, feelings, meaning and power one can experience through a BDSM exchange, scene or practice.

    I love understanding why people do what they do. It is easy to describe what a sexual practice or relationship looks like in terms of external appearances and customs and those things are covered by many other books. This gives a VERY thoughtful, intimate and personal description of the way the authors and others experience being a “bottom” in a bdsm exchange, i.e., the one generally in a receiving role in a scene.

    The authors explain some of the reasons *why* and how these exchanges can be transformative, healing & spiritual and of course mention the more commonly known reasons, such as enjoyment!

    I highly recommend this if you are trying to understand the appeal and some of the emotional and psychological cautions and possible outcomes and safety issues.
    38 people found this helpful
    Helpful
     Report

Top reviews from other countries

Translate all reviews to English
  • A discerning customer
    5.0 out of 5 stars Educational, with great insights and new ideas
    Reviewed in the United Kingdom on May 21, 2025
    Format: KindleVerified Purchase
    I am no stranger to the whole BDSM topic, but this book is by far like a bible.

    Educational, to the point, and with examples and explanations that bring clarity and Aha moments - especially in terms of what things are actually NOT ok to do (but which we all have seen on television or 'other' media').

    Can only recommend for everyone who wants to learn, educate themselves and their Dom.
    Report
  • Joan Arling
    5.0 out of 5 stars The New Bottoming Book
    Reviewed in Germany on July 22, 2011
    Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase
    Ein Buch, das sich unüblicherweise nur mit der "unterlegenen" Sichtweise des Themas BDSM beschäftigt (es gibt das Pendant "The New Topping Book" von denselben Autorinnen).

    Frau Easton und Frau Hardy sind selbst erfahren in der Praxis und geben auch mit der Schilderung eigener Erlebnisse, sowohl Erfolgen als auch Fehlschlägen, einen sehr glaubwürdigen Blick auf was geschehen kann (oder auch, was nicht geschehen sollte).

    Es gibt keine Ausflüge in die Welt Gor, keine Anleitung zu Spielzeug... es geht darum, wie Subbie es anstellt, optimal mit ihre(r/m) Top zu interagieren. In dieser Hinsicht topt ('tschulligung) dieses Buch alle deutsche Literatur über BDSM mit Leichtigkeit.

    Einziges "Problem": es ist nur in englischer Sprache erhältlich. Wen das nicht stört: Tun Sie sich den preiswerten Gefallen und lesen Sie es (oder das Pendant)!

    Nicht vorgesehene sechs Sterne.
    Report
  • Solpheno
    5.0 out of 5 stars Very good beginners manual for both Doms & subs
    Reviewed in Canada on November 23, 2018
    Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase
    A cute quick read, goes over all the basics of what it is to be a sub from mindset to lifestyle and rituals. Doesn’t cover everything of course but covers a lot and makes a very good spot to start if one is just getting into this lifestyle and is interested in learning just a little bit more on how to groom themselves into a better submissive or take cafe of themselves while seeking out partners. Good read for new or learning Doms as well to allow them to get a better idea of what it is a sub may be experiencing or may need..was an easy & quick read, worded in a way that makes it fun to follow along while giving a lot of good advice. Def worth having for anyone who is new or just recently begun learning, lovely first reference impo. Thanks!
    Report
  • Peter
    3.0 out of 5 stars BDSM book.
    Reviewed in Australia on October 1, 2021
    Format: KindleVerified Purchase
    I have heard gay friends express dissatisfaction with this book and I can understand why. The average gay man would see the title and misunderstand what the book is about. The book is a thorough account of how to be a great bottom in BDSM, whether male or female.

    The term Bottom is used a bit differently in non-BDSM gay male sex. While its use in both spheres is perfectly valid, it should be clearer from the title that the book relates to the mixed BDSM scene.
    Report
  • Daniel Álvarez
    3.0 out of 5 stars Bueno
    Reviewed in Spain on October 29, 2024
    Format: PaperbackVerified Purchase
    Un libro bastante interesante, aunque la pasará es un tanto fina
    Report