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Men carrying tote bag?

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Initial post: Oct 18, 2009 8:10:20 AM PDT
karen says:
My boy friend likes my funtote nyc Funtote Natural Dark Trees Tote With SideZipper bag so much, he always finds excuses to borrow it, does that make him look gay? why men don't carry tote, it's so convenient.

Posted on Oct 18, 2009 9:30:38 AM PDT
Ian Kiddo says:
In my opinion, that style of tote does look feminine, but there are types of totes fashioned for men, not in that fashion. For example, there's a type of luggage tote looking more like luggage than a tote that can pass for men. You might try High Sierra brand totes. The actual carrying of that type of tote shown here, though, whether it be over the shoulder or in the hands, looks feminine. I recently ordered a Kenneth Cole luggage tote for the car since I've been driving more frequently, but I also got a messenger bag for my 29th this year for the laptop. If he wants a tote, have him go with a luggage tote. They are usually large in size. If not that, he could carry around a green type grocery bag like I did for the cords to my stuff, some extra clothing and that kind of thing. They are most handy in a situation without other bags...The luggage tote I ordered from Kenneth Cole is their Zero Gravity one, but they have others, such as their Perfect Landing one. Something in a luggage package from Samsonite would be much larger, but it's still considered a tote. Men today need more things with them than they would've a while back.

In reply to an earlier post on Oct 18, 2009 12:06:15 PM PDT
Ulka says:
I carry a woman's purse most everywhere. It's just right for carrying a few things I need. It's obviously a woman's purse, but no one I know cares and besides being very functional I like the chic style too.

Posted on Oct 18, 2009 6:06:25 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Oct 18, 2009 6:11:22 PM PDT
J. Chiarelli says:
That bag is femine looking. I do have tote bag, but it the canvas back pack style like this Canvas Dakota Hiking - School Backpack - Unisex - Olive
I have one or two canvas ones like you posted, but with no prints on it. I use it for food shopping.

Posted on Oct 18, 2009 6:10:09 PM PDT
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Posted on Oct 18, 2009 8:01:24 PM PDT
W. Brown says:
I'm a big believer in what works, and I've found that a side bag works far better for me than an unwieldy briefcase (which starts to wrench my arm after a quarter-mile of carrying) or a backpack (which makes me feel like a pack animal, with all that weight on my back and out of my own reach). I've also noticed that, at least in my area, shoulder bags and messenger bags are becoming an "in" thing for men to carry around. Since shoulder bags are now normal men's accessories, totes are probably on their way. If most guys are like me (and I don't think I'm unique here), their main concerns include whether a bag is suited for whatever they're carrying, and whether they will feel respectable being out in the open with it.

Posted on Oct 18, 2009 8:03:03 PM PDT
John H. says:
As long as you are both comfortable with his sexuality, who cares what other people think. Fashion or the lack thereof is so lame in this way. Everyone wants clothing or accessories to be stylish, but functionality is more important. In many cases, womens accessories are more functional then mens. SO at the risk of looking feminine, manufacturers of mens accessories, sacrifice the functionality of their products.
He should carry whatever best suits his needs and not worry about looking gay ; )

Posted on Oct 19, 2009 8:47:39 AM PDT
Monos Deja says:
bags are ok, i carry one all the time, but it is not a purse, the things i carry are for work, and i use every day.
Tot bag - brief case, luggage etc is not an issue

Posted on Oct 19, 2009 11:04:06 AM PDT
Square Peg says:
I understand your boyfriend's delimma. I routinely carry 3 pairs of eyeglasses: 1. for driving at night, 2. prescription sunglasses, and 3. reading glasses. In addition, I have a cell phone, Palm Pilot, checkbook, Altoids, umbrella, prescription medication, a flash drive, collection of gift cards, and a small bottle of mouthwash. I needed a way to carry all of this and still look masculine and not feel self-conscious. I found a small backpack made by Jansport that does the trick. I never get a second look.

Posted on Oct 19, 2009 2:39:56 PM PDT
Carry whatever sort of bag you want. If anyone gives you guff, give his girlfriend/wife a good solid snog on the lips. That usually works for me.

Posted on Oct 20, 2009 9:02:55 AM PDT
Saphyre Rose says:
What is wrong with a guy carrying a purse, bag, tote whatever around?
My hubby carries with him on a daily basis a work cell phone, his wallet, keys, ID badge for work, a small set of computer tools, a personal cell phone and his glasses.
When we would go out somewhere, his ID, work cell and wallet would get stuck in MY PURSE to carry around. He calls my purse a knapsack. I had enough one day and demanded he carry his own purse.
He bought himself some sort of bag that your belt hooks through and it looks like he is carrying around one of those inventory computers it is so big and it bounces when he walks! He hated it.
So we dug through his old army stuff, messenger bags, etc until finally he bought a backpack. He can even slip his laptop in it. It is a bit heavy, but it is better than him trying to load all the aforementioned stuff into his pockets. Oh, I still carry his glasses and wallet for him, but the rest of the junk stays in the pack in the car!

Why can't you guys just accept the fact that where women carry things like a compact. wallet and daybook (and possibly a small first aid kit, plastic bag of cheerios and a pacifier if you have children) men carry phones, computerized crap and a wallet that hasn't been cleaned out for the last 3 years, you need to put these things somewhere. It is a shame that a lot of guys don't wear blazers or coats anymore, all the inner pockets could be a big help in hauling all that junk around.
I remember my father coming home and emptying his pockets of a wallet, a handkerchief, keys, his lighter and a pack of Lucky Strikes and a pack of candy that tasted like violets. I remember the flavor but not the name. I was only 8 when he died in 1968. I wish I could remember the name of the mints.
Anyway, guys need to carry more things now, so suck it up and buy a bag!

In reply to an earlier post on Oct 20, 2009 3:13:34 PM PDT
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Posted on Oct 20, 2009 6:24:28 PM PDT
D. Patton says:
If you live in a big city, guys and girls both always have a messenger bag, or a smaller satchel, it's pretty common. Obviously he's not "gay or bi" but he likes the idea of carrying a bag. I got over the idea of looking weird when I noticed how weird my buldgy pockets looked when I had them crammed with things. Ipod, wallet, phone... now all of that goes into the bag. Heck, if nothing else, it means you have a bit more carrying space for things on an airplane, since they allow a travel bag and a smaller purse. I'll say i'm carrying a purse if that means i can carry on another bag! haha

Here's what I'm always carrying.
Vintage Military Medic Bags

In reply to an earlier post on Oct 29, 2009 5:00:08 PM PDT
B. Kaufman says:
For years I have carried a bag to store my blood glucose meter, test strips, lancing device, and lancets, and finally decided carrying that thing around might as well mean that I can carry a book, or something in with it. So I looked and looked for a not too hideous bag, and finally decided that Aerostich/Riders Warehouse made the perfect bag. (The small vertical messenger bag) The make all sorts of sizes, colors, materials, etc. These are usually of the messenger bag style though usually a bit smaller (nobody needs those suitcases women carry around with them). And since I ride a motorcycle and or a bicycle all the time, if anyone wants to comments they have to run rather quickly to catch up, and that usually limits their objection to a few gasps. Carry what you want, there are all sorts of choices from 1930's military issue musette bags to modern messenger bags, with a seatbelt strap to stabilize it on your bike.

Posted on Oct 30, 2009 3:53:20 PM PDT
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In reply to an earlier post on Oct 30, 2009 10:49:49 PM PDT
Teri says:
Was it Choward's Violets?

Posted on Oct 31, 2009 5:14:35 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Oct 31, 2009 5:32:35 AM PDT
Jane says:
I carry eye glasses, contact lenses, saline solution, phone, wallet, keys etc. I need something to carry all this junk. I ended up buying a brown leather pocketbook that I had my eyes on for some time.

Posted on Oct 31, 2009 5:22:25 AM PDT
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Posted on Oct 31, 2009 9:41:06 AM PDT
P.W. says:
Mens totes or messenger bags are very useful for shopping, travel & laptops. Louis Vuitton makes several for men that have leather handles and removable shoulder straps on them.
The LV Damier Graphite Tadao is the newest model in gray canvas with black leather and a top zipper. You can get a great replica of it on around $120.00
I also have the Italian Bric's Life Georgia bag in the Olive color,great size, 17" x17" x6".
Jack Georges Generations Lite is also manly in black nylon and black leather trim, Tumi look for alot less.

Posted on Oct 31, 2009 9:35:48 PM PDT
zimmer says:
The feminization of the male. Of course it looks gay and most women think so.
They may tell you it's okay with them but trust me, they don't mean it.

Posted on Nov 1, 2009 7:10:36 AM PST
I've been rocking a messenger bag for a few years now (more recently I've been using this: ever since it arrived). I used to catch a lot of flack from my friends for using a man purse...that is until Will Smith packed one around in I Am Legend.

I don't think using a tote, shouler bag, or messenger bag is an identifler of ones sexual preference. Any guy who's bothered by it has some issues of their own to get over, trust me I've known a few homophobes who are uncomfortable with the smallest things (like sitting next to two other heterosexual guys, myself included, on a couch watching a movie...seriously).

I don't think you should be concerned if it makes him look gay. I figure, so long as he's attracted to you (or just women in general), it really should't be an issue. People will percive whatever they want regardless of what you wear or what you use. It can't be helped.

Posted on Nov 1, 2009 6:34:40 PM PST
iMe says:
I wouldn't feel comfortable carrying a tote bag, but I do carry a messenger bag, backpack, or a one-shoulder backpack sort of thing (not sure what it's called). I have to much stuff to carry, car keys, work keys, home keys, iPhone, netbook (or even laptop sometimes), books, work documents, I used to go crazy and always misplaced things.

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Posted on Nov 3, 2009 11:04:24 AM PST
get him one that isn't so girly. It does look kinda gay, but maybe he is just in for the convenience and style.
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