Compulsive talkers get on my nerves. Always have done. Outwardly I remain polite, but inwardly I begin to seethe as my body language and tone of voice reactions fail to register with what non-compulsive talkers take to mean: 'this woman would like this conversation to wind down now'.
I happen to speak an average amount ( although I have occasionally been told I am ' a quiet type'), and like to think that I am aware not only of myself, but also of the person or people to whom I am speaking. Hence, I automatically notice certain cues that others show which indicate they don't want to talk any more at the moment. These cues include things like establishing less eye contact, moving their bodies slightly away or folding their arms etc.
These clues do not register with CT's. In my experience, neither do direct sentences, such as:' I have to be somewhere else in ten minutes, so I have to go now'.
In the end, I physically move away and wave goodbye and go, but feel I have been rude in the process. ( Yes, I know they have been rude all along for showing no awareness of the person standing beside them.)
So here are my queries:
1) Any other non-rude hints as to how best to extricate oneself from the presence of a CT?
2) If you happen to recognize yourself as a CT... perhaps by dint of being told it by family members or strangers through the years... are you under the impression that all conversations end by people having to do something else or be somewhere else? ( This isn't true. Most people have a little chat, then move on without needing to make an excuse for it. If you are a CT, perhaps you are unaware of this. ) Also....and I don't mean this in a sarcastic way, but I really do wonder about it sometimes... does silence make you anxious?
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