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How can i stop my daughter from being able to buy books from the kindle with out my permission


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Initial post: Aug 21, 2011, 9:02:31 PM PDT
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Posted on Aug 21, 2011, 9:04:58 PM PDT
Erich says:
Tell her that she must get permission to buy a book BEFORE she does so. If she doesn't, take the Kindle away from her.

Action -----> Consequence

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 21, 2011, 9:06:55 PM PDT
JES says:
Have you tried telling her not to buy ebooks without your permission? You get an email for every ebook that is purchased on your account. So you will know if your kid buys an ebook.

Posted on Aug 21, 2011, 9:07:41 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Aug 21, 2011, 9:08:41 PM PDT
Joanna says:
I'm not sure if there is a way to stop her but if she does buy something without your permission, it is possible to get a refund. I think you've got 7 days to return the ebook.

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 21, 2011, 9:07:52 PM PDT
Stoneheart says:
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Posted on Aug 21, 2011, 9:12:42 PM PDT
You can deregister her kindle from your account. She will still have access to downloaded books, but won't be able to access the kindle store to buy. If she regains your trust, you can reregister her kindle.

Posted on Aug 21, 2011, 9:13:11 PM PDT
PeepDittie says:
You could just take your credit card off Amazon except when you're buying something. You could deregister it from your account and only register when you want to send an e-book to her Kindle, which would also prevent her from downloading your previous purchases, in case there's something you don't want her to have. You could also just open an account for her and register her Kindle to that account. Then she can only buy things when she's got gift card credit.

Posted on Aug 21, 2011, 11:28:13 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Aug 21, 2011, 11:31:06 PM PDT
I have a 12 year old sharing my account and it has not been an issue. I was more concerned that a friend at camp might take the kindle and playing around buy something. If your daughter buys something Amazon will remove it and refund the money. You will know because you will get an email.

What would help is explaining to your daughter that while it might seem free, buying a book on her Kindle without permission is just the same as taking your credit card.

Posted on Aug 21, 2011, 11:29:39 PM PDT
zanara says:
Discipline?

Posted on Aug 21, 2011, 11:36:14 PM PDT
Reader says:
As the mother of three grown daughters, I must say that if you cannot get a handle on discipline while she is twelve, what are you going to do when she is sixteen? Amazon is not going to solve your problem, you need to make her understand that you are the boss. I live in the UK but am a fan of Judge Judy, I have lost count of the times I have heard her tell teenagers that until they are eighteen their parents even own the air they breathe.
Sounds about right to me.
Linda

Posted on Aug 21, 2011, 11:47:56 PM PDT
Amazon gift cards are a wonderful thing. You can get them specially for your kindle. If the kindle is your daughters (meaning that its registered under her name) then be sure she knows that when she uses up that gift card then she can't order anymore books until she gets a new gift card. You might also keep a bank card with a very low balance on it for your daughter's kindle. But really i think the gift cards are the best option, and probaly safer to use online.

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 22, 2011, 12:36:17 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Aug 22, 2011, 12:37:40 AM PDT
Jay says:
Let her do as she pleases. If she violates the rules against buying without permission, let her keep the book...but take away her favorite clothes, video games, or whatever. When she learns that misbehaving costs her as well as you, she will cease doing it.

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 22, 2011, 2:48:08 AM PDT
Dog Lover says:
OK - this just boggles my mind. Might I ask what your response would be if she rifled your purse to steal your credit card and went on a shopping spree in the local mall?

Sigh...

Getting past my boggled mind, here is a suggestion until Amazon does whatever it will do to address your issue:

Unless the two of you read the same books, put her Kindle on a new Amazon account just for her. Do not give her the email address/password. Download and register K4PC for that new account. This will allow you to see the books she does use on her Kindle because of the shared archive. Use a gift card or cash card for that account. Only you (because of the email/password privacy) will be able to add money to that account. If the two of you do read the same books more often than would make this approach useful for you (because of possible duplicate purchases) then I am fresh out of suggestions.

That might limit her stealing your money (which is what she is doing.) It will not address the issue that you are apparently reluctant to teach this girl what stealing is.

Best of luck to you.

DL

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 22, 2011, 3:00:38 AM PDT
take the book away as well as some other favourite things, and keep those away indefinitely.

No saying "no icecream for you tonight" only to then serve her favourite pudding instead...

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 22, 2011, 3:19:09 AM PDT
Dog Lover says:
On a more positive note...

It is refreshing to find someone more worried about how MANY books (due to money issues) are being bought/read by a child rather than the other complaints about which books are being read (censorship issues).

No so such thing as "reading too many books", IMO.

DL

Posted on Aug 22, 2011, 3:41:21 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Aug 22, 2011, 4:11:50 AM PDT
A. Sisk says:
This is simple Parenting 101. My two children, 14 and 10, have NEVER purchased a book without permission. Why? Because that's the rule. If they break it, they lose it. Plain and simple. They both love their kindles waaaay too much to do so. (In all honesty, I'm not sure my 10 year old has even taken the time to figure out HOW to do so...yet. But he's only had his kindle for a month!)

We still go to the bookstore and take pix of any book they are interested in and later they get samples. I'll also send samples that I find that I think they will like. THEN...when the need/want a new book, they can choose from there -- after they ASK.

Posted on Aug 22, 2011, 4:06:05 AM PDT
seedlady says:
give the kindle back to her after she pays you for the book.

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 22, 2011, 5:22:50 AM PDT
Grimlock says:
Punish her if she orders book without your permission, or put your books on her Kindle without your permission.

Posted on Aug 22, 2011, 5:34:32 AM PDT
Steve Thomas says:
You need to have a debit or credit card on the account for the books you want to buy for yourself, and so your 12-year-old could buy free books, such as Thomas Jefferson's State of the Union Addresses, without delay, when she thinks they'd be helpful for school.

Ask your banker if you can set up an account with a debit card, separate from your regular bank account. That's free at my bank. Use that card just for Kindle. When you need, you can easily go online to transfer money from your regular account. Otherwise, keeping the account balance very lean keeps your daughter on a short leash.

Short leashes are better than no leashes at all. If she buys a 99c book without permission, you can yell at her out of principle, not out of pain.

Posted on Aug 22, 2011, 5:53:56 AM PDT
If you can't keep her from using your credit card without permission NOW via the parenting tools at your disposal (clear communication about consequences, following up if necessary), the next few years are going to be really rough.

My sympathies.

Posted on Aug 22, 2011, 5:59:22 AM PDT
Seriously...I've raised 4 kids. If they wouldn't listen to me at age 12, well, the next few years are going to be a real struggle.

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 22, 2011, 6:19:35 AM PDT
Jazzy_Jeff says:
I would just set rules and if she buys a book without permission start breaking fingers. She will get the message eventually.

Posted on Aug 22, 2011, 6:22:46 AM PDT
GoldDove says:
I got my son a Kindle when he was 9. I told him if he found a book he wanted to buy, to ask me first, but not to buy it on his own. If he had bought one without permission, I would have taken his Kindle until he was mature enough to be trusted.

Posted on Aug 22, 2011, 6:34:53 AM PDT
Wow! What a rough, judgemental lot of people! Well, I don't know if this will help, but I bought my 13 year old grandaughter her Kindle, and it is linked to my account. She knows to ask whenever she wants a book, but she did once accidentally buy a book and didn't even know until I told her. (It wasn't even one that she wanted). After that, I did have her deregister her Kindle, and when she wants a book I re-register, send her the book, and then trust her to deregister once she has loaded the book. (This can be done, and checked online).

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 22, 2011, 6:44:01 AM PDT
Dog Lover says:
Now see? At the time that occurred, you didn't ask for a "technical" solution to a mistake made by that kid. You handled it yourself. It obviously isn't an issue with trust. It obviously isn't an issue of having a kid that, apparently, doesn't care whether she is misusing the privilege. You didn't come whining to the forum that your granddaughter "helps herself to your account and your credit card."

Can't say that about the OP's question.

Roughly and judgmentally yours,

DL
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