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Seriously, would your man ever use this word?

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Initial post: Nov 13, 2012 7:55:11 AM PST
Jean says:
Maybe it's just me, but I cringe every time a hero uses the word "panties". I cannot imagine my husband EVER using this word, especially not in the "take off your panties, baby" context. It'd be more like, "lose the underwear, babe".

One hero (I think it was in a Kristen Ashley book) was discussing the heroine's camisole - and actually calling it a "cami". Yeah. I don't think so.

Just venting. :)

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 8:16:47 AM PST
Last edited by the author on Nov 13, 2012 8:36:02 AM PST
It's not just you. Makes me laugh... generally I only read romances but for our book club we are reading Gone Girl: A Novel by Gillian Flynn (which, you know, COULD count as a romance... just a very dark and disturbing one) and anyway... the male narrator made the funniest reference to that subject and I highlighted it:

"He used the eraser end of a pencil to pick up a pair of women's underwear (technically they were panties-stringy, lacy, red- but I know women get creeped out by that word- just Google hate the word panties)."

Anyway... it cracked me up because it's true. And no I don't think men use the word a lot because they know it bothers us or that it sticks out as not masculine.

It's funny you should mention it today. Last night I was reading Bring Me Home for Christmas (Virgin River) by Robyn Carr (VERY great romance, btw) and the H references panties not just once, but twice. And both times it leapt off the page and I thought of the quote from Gone Girl.

The first time he's rummaging through her stuff (with permission) and his fingers touch her panties and he realizes how much he misses her. Later he makes a joke about the guys and the word panties is used. I was thinking, "Men don't think that way, do they?"


In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 8:22:34 AM PST
Jean says:
The Gone Girl reference is hilarious! I haven't read that. And I really can't imagine men having a discussion and using the word "panties". Although I think "underpants" is a hilarious word and I giggle like a 12-year old whenever I hear it.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 8:26:04 AM PST
It is a funny subject. I'm married and I'm searching for a word that my husband uses in regular conversation. And honestly, I think he just avoids the topic. HAHAHA.

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 8:45:05 AM PST
RobinTadpole says:
I know my husband uses the word. I have heard other guys too. Some would never say it, like my Dad, I can't imagine him using that word ever.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 8:54:09 AM PST
Just ridiculous. But par for the course where heroes regularly in romance novels notice the heroine's lemony chiffon empire dress and strappy chartreuse 3 1/2 inch sandals. Almost as laughable as all those heroes who want to talk about their feelings without threat of dismemberment or loss of TV remote control.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 8:59:04 AM PST
Jean says:
And they always recognize the designer of said strappy chartreuse 3-1/2 inch sandals! Sure. Most men I know couldn't tell the difference between Choos and Payless.

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 9:03:43 AM PST
That's a good point about romances in general. So many heroes who regularly notice details like styles of hair, dresses, shoes, colors, fabrics.... though perhaps they're the most metrosexual of their time period.

Consider Mr. Tilney from Northanger Abbey! That's how he and Catherine meet... he bumps into her chaperone and they go on to discuss fabric, cost of fabric and styles of dresses which greatly impresses the chaperone. HA. Very funny scene. (Turns out the hero has a sister he often shops with.)

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 9:41:40 AM PST
CMommy says:
This isn't a word problem but I just DNF'ed a book, No More Running, because the H asked the h out on a date to see the movie Happy Feet Two. Really!?!?!?!

What alpha male is going to watch Happy Feet unless he has children?

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 10:08:15 AM PST
Curmudgeon says:
Don't you think he would if he thought the heroine would like the movie?
Then again my husband was for the most part very non alpha and his preference was for John Belushi movies. He was appalled I hadn't seen 1942 when we first started dating

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 10:12:42 AM PST
Rosy Stone says:
Not only that but how on earth do you rip or tear a pair of panties?

In the heat of passion, the H often rips her panties to show his uncontrollable need for her. Panties are very stretch material and in my experience, never rip easily but tend to give. So how does he do it? Special alpha qualities?

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 10:34:39 AM PST
Curmudgeon says:
and don't forget the elastic cutting her skin

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 10:36:14 AM PST
Jean says:
I think it's the elastic that makes it tough to tear. You might rip the material but then you'd be left with only the elastic. Tres sexy.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 10:39:56 AM PST
CMommy says:
Curmudgeon: I thought about that but he specifically said he wanted to watch it. It just eeked me out.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 10:42:08 AM PST
what about the word "Darling?" I heard my manager calling her boy friend that and I cracked up. I just don't hear that.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 10:45:21 AM PST
Jean says:
OMG, yes! Darlin' maybe. Probably. Darling - never. I was just reading an awful book where the H kept calling the h "sweetheart" almost from the second he met her. Now, that's an okay endearment in real life, but in romance novels it is usually accompanied by a sneer from the H. And it means he is P*SSED!

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 10:59:56 AM PST
Why do I have a mental image of Harrison Ford saying that? He did, didn't he? Now I need to go watch a movie or 6 (or was it 7).

I remember a Lori Foster or two where the H - a MMA type - used the word sexual in conversation with the h. Eh? You actually know what that word means...

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 11:47:19 AM PST
BethB says:
Nightie. Kirsten Ashley's Hs refer to their h's nightie at least once per book. And every time it hits me as girlie and weird. And then I spend minutes wondering what a big, mean alpha SHOULD call whatever his woman wears to bed...and I come up blank.

Re endearments, DEAR just sounds like something your grandma calls you. Real buzz kill.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 11:55:11 AM PST
Jean says:
Oh yeah - I forgot about nightie. I remember Ty literally screaming that Lexie was out in only her NIGHTIE and thinking how ridiculous that sounded. I think the better word would be "nightgown".

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 12:00:55 PM PST
Last edited by the author on Nov 13, 2012 12:01:09 PM PST
ambrosia says:
Or more likely, Ty wouldn't describe what she's wearing, but what she isn't, "Go put some clothes on, woman!"

The only males I know who use the word "panties" are nerdy teenage boys from '70s and '80s movies, like Revenge of the Nerds, would go on panty raids!!!

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 13, 2012 12:06:19 PM PST
S. Dunham says:
It depends on the panties. String bikini panties have just 2 little strips of elastic at the hips. They can tear pretty easily. Some thongs are really just a little scrap of material and doesn't take much effort for that to rip either. And the pair that my husband refers to as the 'eye patch' is a little triangle of satin with elastic. I insist on removing those because I'm pretty sure they will rip! Now if you are talking granny panties, hip huggers, or briefs, I would think those would be more difficult, if not painful, to rip off one's body.

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 1:54:59 PM PST
Heh; I'd like to see them rip off a pair of my haynes menswear inspired. Might even be impressed enough to congratulate them if they succeed.

DH refers to nighties and other assorted enticements as "things". He doesn't know what they're called, and wouldn't remember if I told him anyway. So I have a black thing, a pink thing, a red thing...

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 5:37:18 PM PST
F. Martin says:
I saw this thread and found this really funny. My husband actually does say "panties" ("underwear" are boxers according to him), and it took me aback the first time he said it. Consider the source though, to him lunch is dinner and a robe is a house coat... :)

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 5:50:34 PM PST
my husband was in the navy, and he uses the basic "scivvies" no matter what they look like :)

Posted on Nov 13, 2012 6:12:10 PM PST
Last edited by the author on Nov 13, 2012 6:28:15 PM PST
bknyfinest1 says:
Now that I think of it, hubs calls all underwear "drawers" but it sounds more like "draws". I'm going to ask him if he's ever even uttered the word panties. LOL!!
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