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Is there a Key to Happiness?

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In reply to an earlier post on Jun 22, 2012, 5:43:36 AM PDT
Jane Reese says:
JTL, Thanks for your good post.
How much of your ability to find the "key to happiniss" do you attribute to being
around your autistic brother?
He likely has a way of pointing out life's most precious moments?

In reply to an earlier post on Jun 22, 2012, 8:34:14 AM PDT
P. F. Watson says:
"A happy life is intentional". Your happiness wont just fall out of the sky; you have to choose it. Recognize first of all that you are born with freewill, and that every human you know, love , interact with or will never meet also have freewill. Be intentional, strident, protective of what is in your freewill domain. Everything else is outside of your domain.

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Posted on Jun 27, 2012, 10:04:21 AM PDT
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Posted on Jun 27, 2012, 10:06:19 AM PDT
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April Ford says:
The "key" to happiness is all within. Everyone has a different definition of "happiness" just like "success". Some people measure happiness/success by monetary value, assets, social status, etc...find what fulfills your life with joy, peace, love and security.

With gratitude...stay blissful--

Posted on Jun 27, 2012, 11:22:38 AM PDT
Being happy is like being skinny, some people come by it easily and some have to work at it. If it doesn't come naturally for you, you will have to work at it. Most people have no clue just what work they need to do though, so I'll explain.

Emotions are brought to us by our subconscious mind, based solely on our thoughts. In fact, our entire reality is created by our thoughts. Our thoughts are received by our subconscious, which, in turn, causes us to do things (subconsciously) that create a reality congruent with them. Our predominant thoughts become habitual, which literally hardwires the neurons in our brains so that they form what is called a neural net. If we want to create a new reality, it is necessary to change our habitual thought patterns so that the neural net becomes rewired.

Most of us derive our thoughts from the input of our circumstances and experiences. When we operate from that dynamic, we are destined to live a life that reflects our current reality. The wonderful thing about the human mind is that we cannot only change what we experience to a large degree; we can direct our thoughts so that they are congruent with the reality we would like to experience. In doing this, we shift our thoughts from reactionary to visionary.

The first thing necessary to start creating a reality" you desire is to free yourself from judgment. This not only enables you to feel you deserve to have the reality you desire; it keeps you from judging your desires, and it is these very desires that will lead you not only to that which brings you the greatest joy in life, but also will be the most beneficial to others as well. Affirmations are one of the most powerful ways to do this and also one of the practices that are most frequently done incorrectly. Not only do affirmations have to be done in the present tense (as if already achieved) and in the positive, but the emotions of it already being your reality must be experienced. This is similar to what great actors and actresses do when they get "into character." They also have to be habitual, so must be done at least once daily. The affirmation for judgment needs to be said to yourself but about other people. By saying the phrase, "You are perfect and beautiful," to yourself (not aloud) about random people, it not only frees yourself from judgment of others but yourself as well.

Once you have freed yourself of judgment, you can use this technique to start creating other realities you desire. Some good general affirmations are, "My thoughts are in line with my desires," "My happiness grows greater by the day," or, "I believe that anything is possible." Visualization, creativity and guided meditation are other good ways to bring about your reality. The same rules apply to those methods as affirmations. The basic idea is to experience for a few minutes every day the reality you wish to create and the emotions you would have if it were your current reality.

Another great thing that helps to shift your thought process is to start a gratitude journal. By focusing on what you lack in life, you bring about more that causes you to feel that way. By focusing on what you are grateful for, you bring about more to be grateful for. Just write down one thing you are grateful for every day and focus on the list while feeling the gratitude for a minute. After a week, date it and start over.

When you begin changing your thinking to be in line with your desires, your old way of thinking will begin to concern you because it is so prominent and out of line with the reality you're trying to create. Don't panic. Whatever you think about with emotion, you bring about, so if you are worried about it or try to fight it, it will just become more prominent. Like a gardener, you are planting seeds and watering them daily. It will take time to bear fruit.

You may at times find yourself a bit despondent as well. This is because your body is adjusting to the new emotional peptides your brain is sending it. Honor your feelings but remind your body that you are doing this for its best interest, and continue the techniques so that they become habitual.

Change your input. Read inspirational material about someone who has mastered a reality you would like to emulate. Watch inspiring movies and uplifting television. Limit input incongruent with your desired reality.

It is essential to have a good understanding of how the mind works so that it can start working for you instead of against you. Some people will spend their whole lives running around in circles, wondering why they can't get anywhere in life. Our minds require that we set a destination for ourselves so that it knows where to take us. After declaring our destination, it is simply a matter of letting go and going with the flow of the universe. I wish you well, and I hope that you end up exactly where you want to go."

Living life loving.

The Guru Delivery: An Unusually Practical Guide to Spiritual Enlightment

Posted on Jun 28, 2012, 12:34:30 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jun 28, 2012, 1:03:24 PM PDT
I have found a great article which really touches on 4 keys that lead to a happy life.

They are:

1. The solutions to all your problems are within you.

2. You are NOT your Ego.

3. Live life meeting the needs of others without ignoring your own.

4. Live Two Days at a Time.

These four simple reminders are something I will try to use everyday.

The rest of the article can be found here :

Or, the author's book (I recommend it) can be found here: Beyond the PIG and the APE: Realizing SUCCESS and true HAPPINESS

Posted on Jun 30, 2012, 7:05:16 PM PDT
bachdog says:
If there is a key to happiness, then it must follow that the key to happiness is wisdom, living the examined life, as Socrates put it.

Because what is wisdom but the means and method to achieve happiness?

Posted on Jul 1, 2012, 7:53:13 PM PDT
I think it's learning to find clarity as to what is happening inside your own heart and learning to be at peace with yourself through identifying and confronting the issues you carry within yourself. For the most part, circumstances are just that - circumstances. What they trigger within us is exactly that - within us. Your circumstances don't define how you feel - they simply reveal what's already in your heart.

Posted on Jul 2, 2012, 1:44:00 AM PDT
Bumpguy says:
Ceaseless, never-ending acceptance.

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 2, 2012, 1:48:57 PM PDT
Gibby7 says:
Meditation is the true key to happiness.
Meditation Guide

Posted on Jul 2, 2012, 6:58:31 PM PDT
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Posted on Jul 2, 2012, 7:23:30 PM PDT
The real key to Happiness is helping people in real need, and enjoying good health, in that order. Just as a body needs excercise, the human mind needs stimulation through positive reinforcement from self help and inspirational books and cds. Use it or lose it!

Posted on Jul 2, 2012, 8:50:21 PM PDT
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jpl says:
Happiness can only be achieved by going within. This is best done through meditation, then learning to bring it into your life insofar as is possible without expecting too much from yourself. Be gentle with yourself, just as you would a new-found love.

Learn to concentrate to the point that you can begin to examine thoughts as they arise. See your thoughts non-judgmentally. Be kind to yourself, and bring yourself gently back to your meditation anchor while sitting in meditation.

As you go deeper, consciousness will reveal more and more to you. You will learn to prefer instead of grasp. You will be able to let go when necessary. You will begin to see that consciousness itself is in a constant state of change.

Continune this process to see how far you can go, but in the meantime, learn not to be defensive and take things personally. Learn to notice when you are comparing others and yourself to some imagined familial or social ideal. When you notice these things in others or yourself, just notice, nonjudgmentally, and let it go.

Practice this over and over. It may takes months before you start to notice that you are in fact changing. You will become less stressed out and fearful; you will feel more at ease in the world and with others.

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 3, 2012, 1:09:54 AM PDT
J. Coco says:
Yes... read Commit to Feel Good! It's all there!Commit to Feel Good!

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Posted on Jul 3, 2012, 7:51:02 AM PDT
Aside from selling books being a key to happiness, try this simple one: Notice one thing you enjoy with every breath you take. It is always there, but it's up to you to pay attention and notice it. Clear? Simple? And just doing it will move you further toward happiness than reading any of the books advertised on this site!! Any agreements? Disagreements? Anyone trying it? What were your results? After all, this is supposed to be a discussion site.

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 3, 2012, 8:37:03 AM PDT
Hi 2 cents:

I'm often troubled by troubled minds. Happiness comes from not feeling deficient.

Higher Reality Therapy: Nine Pathways to Inner Peace

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 3, 2012, 10:03:20 AM PDT
Amy Peterson says:
Self awareness. For help see The Wonder of Everything by Amy Peterson in the Kindle store.

Posted on Jul 3, 2012, 10:28:53 AM PDT
There isn't just one key. There are 5. The 5 Keys to Fullness of Life.

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 3, 2012, 10:44:49 AM PDT
Unknown says:
Of course there is. The Answer: How to Feel Bloody Good All the Time ($0.99).
The Answer: How to Feel Bloody Good All the Time

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 3, 2012, 3:22:11 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 4, 2012, 1:52:07 AM PDT
Shirley Anne says:
I do understand people's disagreement against people promoting books as having the answers to happiness people are seeking. I often do not agree with a book choice someone may recommend to me, as books are personal and "speak" to individuals. And at the same time, a book is often a download of someone's thoughts, on a much bigger scale than a discussion forum. It is not back and forth communication as this discussion post usually is, but imagine the time it would take for the author to relay all those thoughts in person. And that is the value in books. Martin Luther King Jr speaks to people still, as does Mother Teresa, or Jesus the Christ. You do not have to read my book either, but it is there if you choose to, and I hope it does bring happiness to some people and a new way of seeing many things ( Just as some believe in meditation as the way to happiness, so others will enthusiastically recommend a book they feel has the answers that work for them. Hope we all find our own "pathways to peace".

Posted on Jul 3, 2012, 7:32:22 PM PDT
Jane Reese says:
Shirley, thanks for the comments and the announcement about your
slant on "Pathways to Peace".

Posted on Jul 4, 2012, 1:34:23 AM PDT
J. Coco says:
When I began to understand that my thoughts were my creative tool, I realized that many of my thoughts were not my own. I began to see just how many thoughts and images I had adopted from others. Most of these were adopted during the formative years but if unaware, we continue to open ourselves up to the thoughts and images that serve other's interests but not necessarily our own. We are continually exposed to concepts and images through everyday marketing and the media. How many of these do we simply absorb and adopt as our own without realizing that this is the creative process-the process through which we create our lives. Once I realized just how this creative process works, I learned to take control of my thinking and develop thinking patterns that create a joyful life. So in my opinion, the fundamental key to happiness is "thought". Commit to Feel Good! Another plug for my book where I've documented my learning and understandings of this process.Commit to Feel Good!

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Posted on Jul 4, 2012, 8:40:19 AM PDT
Wow, a batch of posts and not a single answer to the questions in my post of 7/3!!! I thought a di9scussion involved questions and answers. Some of the posts since mine do respond to mine. For what I hope will be the final time: i HAVE NO OBJECTION TO PEOPLE ADVERTISING BOOKS HERE!!!" I would like to find someone willing to have a discussion in which we ask each other questions, respond to the questions, and do not simply ignore what the other poster has asked. I have even thought of trying to pay someone to answer my questions. Hmmn, that may be a good idea.
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