First, I am 43 years old. I found this book as one of the best in my collection of learning. (Napoleon Hill, Tony Robbins, Don Ruiz, David Brooks, Steven Covey). This book is another excellent asepct to learning about self awareness, values, entitlement, responsiblity, choice, and death. Also has a great understanding through his life experiences and a lot I can relate.
I was skeptical about the name of the book and bought this book thinking it was about a 'who cares mentalility' and not caring. After reading it, realized t approaches ithe opposite then most self help books. Its unorhtodox in using the language in ways that create a different perspective.
So, why the negative reviews? well lets state what the book says it is:
"learning how to focus and prioritzie your thoughts effectively-- how to pick and choose what matters to you and what does not matter to you based on finely honed personal values."
I suspect a lot of people were offended perhaps because they experienced the negative and want to blame the book for their not getting it when they got older? Life is a lesson, always. This book is a good one to get if you are young, but great if you have a teenager or nephew or family member whom you want to understand or reach. why? You learn to understand how to communicate. Note: it's not always about you.
"the desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience."
A lot of people whom review this book I have noticed are stuck in the 'i want it my way' and not seeing the forest for the trees. Maybe not everything is relevant to you, but then what is? its about seeing outside yourself and not being so self centered. Foundations of understanding and not knowing is a good way to help others and understand others. Too many people think they know. forget knowing, and understand.
Chapter titles are decieving and offensive to those whom might have a aversion to direct offensive approaches. If you don't like them, then well, read another book. Don't take a book by its cover they say. Well don't think you KNOW by reading the chapter titles.
1. Don't Try 2. Happiness is a problem 3. You Are Not Special 4. The Value of Suffering 5. You are Always Choosing 6. You're Wrong About Everything 7. Failure Is the Way Forward 8. The Importance of Saying No 9. . . . And Then You Die
"Conflict is not only normal, then; it's absolutely necessary for the maintence of a healthy relationship."