Reviewed in the United States on November 12, 2015
“I can’t think of a better definition of a failed man than a deadbeat dad. If you bring a child into the world, your purpose in life is to be involved with that child and guide him to adulthood. Fatherhood is a job you don’t get to quit. Fathers teach sons how to be men; they teach daughters what to expect from men.” -- page 128
This quotation from co-author Jim Geraghty certainly flies in the face of the prevailing wisdom in this country where we are told that “it takes a village” to raise a child. It is so much nonsense. Today’s twenty-somethings have been indoctrinated since kindergarten with a destructive set of values that lower expectations and in all too many cases arrests development. Thus we have a generation of young men still living in their parent’s basements, many of whom are essentially afraid to participate in adulthood. Jim Geraghty and Cam Edwards have come to the rescue with a new book that some might deem controversial. “Heavy Lifting: Grow Up, Get a Job, Start a Family and Other Manly Advice” unabashedly espouses the traditional values that were embraced by ‘the greatest generation”. I never thought I would live to see the day when a book like this would be necessary but in my view it is a long overdue breath of fresh air.
Aside from urging young men to leave the comfort and security of mom and dad’s place the authors also address other pertinent issues such as how to co-exist with a new roommate, how to dress for success, how to go about looking for that first real job and mustering up the courage to ask the special young lady you fancy for a date. They go on to discuss such potentially destructive behaviors such as addiction to video games, porn and alcohol. In the second portion of the book the authors urge their readers to seriously consider marriage and then starting a family. Geraghty and Edwards lament the fact that so many young people seem to view parenthood as an 18 year prison sentence. They offer a very realistic view of what to expect in a marriage and how fathering and raising a child should be the most important thing you will ever do in your life. As I indicated this book is most definitely counter-cultural.
Now if there is a young man in your life that needs a nudge I suggest you present them with a copy of “Heavy Lifting”. This is a well written and thought-provoking book that should prompt some interesting discussions. Recommended.