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It Sticks with You Over Time
on December 31, 2011
I just bought this for a friend, not as a management book, but as a parenting book. A new mother wants to know how to approach the child in terms of helping her become her own person and find fulfillment, so I recalled this book and gave it to her. It stuck with me after many years, and its simple premise (captured in the title) shaped the way my wife and I parented our kids.
Some times we are tempted as managers or as parents to "fix" people in ways that would make them more like ourselves or our ideals that we fail to live up to. In either case, that is misguided and wrong. I went to grad school with a Japanese fellow whose company sent him to the U.S. to "round him out" and build up his weaknesses. Wrong again.
I think this book gives us permission to do what ultimately makes the most sense: help others to find their joy. Certainly, there are weaker sides that must be bolstered enough to avoid failure in life, but only that much and no more. The best thing a person can do for another is to help him or her to find a way to thrive doing what they do best.
Artists have their muses. The rest of us need each other to give us permission to find out who we really are and to figure out how to become that person.