I originally read the book for my Family Therapy doctoral class, and loved it. It really altered my perspective in the topic. I even recommended it to some of my patients. I found the book to be a good tool for both individual and couples therapy. I bought the audio book cds as a Christmas gift for my partner, after he claimed to be to lazy to read the book. He heard them all while he drove around before New Years Eve, after receiving them. A couple of times, he would just park the car in front of the house and stay inside the car until the current chapter he was listening ended. While he was listening to the book and after he was done, with discuss the content of the book; it helped improve our communication was a couple and our views of how we express love to one another.