This is NOT another touchy feely parenting book. I've read all those and they don't work for a strong, independent 4 year old. This book worked the second i started implementing the 1-2-3 tactics and I don't have to yell anymore! My daughter takes me seriously now! My husband and I don't fight about discipline because he sees this work with very little effort. LOVE this book. Read it today, you won't be disappointed!!