I am in my 50's and have been telling my story for the first time ever in therapy. I relate to understanding yet not understanding why I didn't seek help or why I stayed loyal, feeling obligated to "not wanting to hurt" my parents by letting out the secret. I have been moving from victim to survivor through engagement in intense (and many times scary) therapy sessions. I am grateful to have support from 1 of my 3 siblings who also acknowledges the crazy childhood. Though this book was intermittently intense to read, I know that others would understand my story. Thank you Nikki, Sami and Tori for sharing. RIP Kathy, Shane and Ron.