I paid $1.96 for a used copy of this book and it saved my marriage. For five years my marriage has descended into an ugly "crazy cycle." It was filled with confusion, betrayal, bitterness, and resentment. I think we both started to see each other as the enemy.
Normally when I have read books on marriage it feels like a ton of information but not really any tools to utilize it. This book blew my mind. It felt like the author held me personally accountable for my own awful behavior without any excuses. I cried a lot while reading this. There's a part where the author asked how you'd feel if a woman spoke to your son the way you speak to your husband. I was horrified. But it was a good wakeup call. My husband is listening to it on audio book and we've been communicating effectively for the first time in eight years together. We "got it" Dr.
I read this book as an atheist but still found it incredibly useful and relatable. But this book may not help those who are not in a traditional role and certainly not anyone in an abusive relationship.