I sincerely wish I had bought and read this book at least three years ago. It was insightful, encouraging, and has helped me even though my teens are now 16 and 18. I gave them the love language test and was surprised as to what their love language is. Once I started loving them more that way, I could truly see a difference. I am a physical person but they both leaned toward verbal love so while it's not HARD it does take thought to make sure I'm speaking their love language. I had read the book for wives/husbands years ago and liked it; wish I had got this one sooner (and had read the one for children when they were young). I can't recommend this enough to friends/family!