I bought this because I want a marriage that works. I have been married for 2 years and am beginning to feel the beginnings of what could be catastrophic cracks in the foundation if we don't make an effort to shore things up now. This book is highly recommended. Online it's the first book that shows up in most queries about marriage. My dear husband has read more than I have - don't I have a good one?! ;) Why I'm reviewing this now is that we were both kinda put off by a statement made in the book early on... Apparently the author can tell within 15 minutes if a couple is gonna make it or not. Come on... What good does this do anyone reading it? Let's be real. How many times have you let 15 minutes pass being snappy, or short, or neglectful of your spouses 'bids' for attention? Well, we're headed for the scrap pile. May as well give up now right? Even if you were already internally softening and planning how to make your amends. It makes it sound like we're destined to fail. Unless we can make ourselves look the part of a happy couple, 15 minutes at a time. Look, I understand there may be an uphill battle in getting folks to adopt one marital counseling system over another but save us the grandiose claims of clairvoyance and efficacy and just present the material and let us decide. I'm still gonna look thru this material. But I have to tell you that statement alone has made it much harder to take seriously.