This book’s table of contents alone hits the spot. The chapter headings resonate with the painful longing that comes and goes in marriage. These two chapter headings: “nurture your . . . admiration” and “turn toward each other instead of away” alone tell a universe worth of solution/ prevention for loneliness and the erosion of attachment. How to be more attuned to each other - this book tells that. But it’s part of the solution. It’s in my experience that a mindfulness practice of some kind and not necessarily “ religious” is the other part of the solution to making marriage or any relationship work. I’ve found a necessary-for-me, part-of-my-solution in mindfulness and meditation practice books, such as Pema Chodron’s (How to Meditate, Start Where You Are). I believe that a person could be devout member of any religion or a “ nonbeliever” and, without offense or harm, find the “Self” connection/ attunement, insight, acceptance and compassion that makes possible giving all that good stuff to another - through quiet listening/meditation practice and mindfulness of feelings especially. So reading the excellent, relevant, effective Gottman books, yes, plus reading additional sources for developing a daily practice of quietly listening within.