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Reviewed in the United States on January 23, 2019
This book’s table of contents alone hits the spot. The chapter headings resonate with the painful longing that comes and goes in marriage. These two chapter headings: “nurture your . . . admiration” and “turn toward each other instead of away” alone tell a universe worth of solution/ prevention for loneliness and the erosion of attachment. How to be more attuned to each other - this book tells that. But it’s part of the solution. It’s in my experience that a mindfulness practice of some kind and not necessarily “ religious” is the other part of the solution to making marriage or any relationship work. I’ve found a necessary-for-me, part-of-my-solution in mindfulness and meditation practice books, such as Pema Chodron’s (How to Meditate, Start Where You Are). I believe that a person could be devout member of any religion or a “ nonbeliever” and, without offense or harm, find the “Self” connection/ attunement, insight, acceptance and compassion that makes possible giving all that good stuff to another - through quiet listening/meditation practice and mindfulness of feelings especially. So reading the excellent, relevant, effective Gottman books, yes, plus reading additional sources for developing a daily practice of quietly listening within.
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