I am able to understand certain actions more clearly after reading this book. I will be purchasing his military version, since honestly that's the reason I purchased this book. I'm currently dating someone who is deployed and it is all very confusing. The only pitfall of this book is the Christian aspect. I'm all for the writer to express his religious views in his literature, but I am not Christian, so it felt a little preachy. I did value their insight, but did not feel applicable to me.