Can't recommend this read enough. Just like any book about parenting, you have to take everything with a grain of salt. This book wont resonate with everyone, but it's a perspective that works for us! If nothing else, my biggest takeaway was to chill out. But we got so much more out of it - chocolate is okay (who doesn't love a book that says that,) the pause, big eyes, date nights don't have to be scheduled. Simple tips to try - they may not be for you, but we're all in trial and error gear when it comes to becoming parents right? Love the 100 days quick breakdown in the back of this version that made it easy for my husband to get the same information as me without the full read!