Please note- This book is great by itself but it is much better in a small group with a trained moderator. I found myself-once again-heartbroken over another damaged woman that God told me was not ready for me. I asked God "why do I seem to find the same kind" and he told me to get this book. I have already done Changes That Heal and Boundaries so this seemed like the next step as I waited to see what my church was gonna offer this fall. They are offering another one of the 4 Foundation series now and Safe People next semester, so God's timing is once again perfect. SOo many great explanations in this book that I can put into place right now. GREAT BOOK!!!