My partner and I found this book to be very helpful, however we did notice the author often assumes the military service member is male. Every since reading this book it has helped us understand each other a little bit and has given us insights on how to fill each other's love tanks. We found that we have the same love languages, but we express them differently. The book helped us with ideas on how to fulfill each other when we are away for long distances of time. We recommend this book to all looking to strengthen their bond with their spouse.