I've only read about half of it, and we've only done the first exercise, but I've already seen a huge difference in the way my husband and I relate to each other. We both feel lighter & happier & way more positive about our marriage and the future. The author's approach is different from everything I thought I knew about marriage counseling, but makes so much more sense. Just reading the 'myths about marriage' in the first chapter was eye-opening and worth the cost of the whole book (luckily for me there is much more equally valuable info in every chapter). Frankly, I think it's also making me a better friend: instead of reiterating the doctor's positive attitude for my friend going through a difficult pregnancy, last time we talked I just listened and validated her feelings. To my surprise she seemed happier just to have me say "I'm sorry you're going through that, it IS scary." I'm so relieved to have found this book and would make it required reading for every couple if I could. I'm grateful to the authors for writing it and the couples who spent time in the labs that helped bring these insights into consciousness.