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I am from India and I am a product of attatchment parenting(almost all Indians are)...I now have a 2 month old baby girl...I agree with every aspect of Dr Sears philosophy about parenting.....As a kid,teenager and then a youth,I have always felt considering my parents' opinion before taking important decisions.It is true that I have not done many things I wanted to bcoz of fear of hurting my parents' feelings..looking back,I don't feel my freedom or independence was questioned in those times.In fact,they turned out to be good for me.But still,I disagree with my mom's opinions on almost anything and I have my own ways too.I believe attatchment parenting is what is natural and that is how to raise caring,sensitive children who have moral values and will strive towards the bettering of the world they live in.
Attachment parenting helps to know the child inside out.This helps as the kids grow and start froming their own opinions.When you know why your kid says what she says or why she wants what she wants,parenting becomes so much easier.There is no tug-of-war or power struggle.I have breastfed fot two years,co-slept,carried the baby in a sling ,and did most suggestions in this book.My kid is one of those high-needs baby,but I have been able to handle the behaviours appropriately thanks to many of DR Sears books.
Once when my kid was barely two months,we took her to the mall.She was sitting front-facing in a sling.She started screaming and wailing and i felt embarrased as all eyes were on me.They all looked at me as if I did something to the baby.But i was able to think about it,wondered whats wrong from the point-of-view of my daughter,being in her shoes,imagining I were a baby sitting in a sling front-facing,and immediately understood that she was feeling very vulnerable and scared sitting in that position,looking out to a whole new world.I took her out of the sling and sat her facing me,now that she could see her mom and feel secure,she was calm and quiet for the rest of the evening.
I could give thousands of further examples of the benefits of this style.The connection between parent and child is so secure that forced discipline is seldom required.My daughter is hesistant to upset me,that she will do something when I ask her to.That is a very difficult achievement for high-needs.Teachers are often surprised when they say about an incident,I already know the whys of what she did.They ask me how could I know so clear what must have occured without seein it.
There is a downside to AP though.The kid is so attatched that you are still the center of their world in spite of having an outside life and friends and other activities.She tells her friends"Mom is always my best friend".