While I did not agree with everything in this book, it really enlightened me and helped me accept the fact that I had to negotiate a commitment. I am happy to say that I am happily married (for the first and only time) to a once-confirmed-bachelor who was 44 when I met him, never married, with no children. We have been married for six years and now have two beautiful children of our own. Follow the principles in this book and value yourself. I am now buying it for my 22-year-old niece.