. . . if you are a man. While this book is well-written and does have some wisdom in it, there is a ton of condemnation for men. Sex is boring? Must be the guy's fault! Wife having an affair? Must be because of her husband! Etc. Every single example of maritial strife from this book, that I can remember, shows the man in a bad light. Piling completely unnecessary guilt on guys who are reading to try to find "kosher" ways to improve their sex lives at home is really kicking them while they're down. I have read four of Schmuley's books and very much enjoyed two of them. This one went into the trash before I had finished reading it.