I had the recent experience of accidentally coming across the e-mail address of my first crush in high school who I always cared about, but I can't say I loved him because we only had a few dates when I was thirteen, there was never a real relationship between us. I wrote to him just to say a friendly hello, assuming he was happily married like he used to be before he left our home town thirty years ago. I was so surprised when he wrote back to me and said he has been divorced twice, and would love to come back to our home town to see me. I told him I was very busy (it was around the holidays) and I would contact him in a few weeks. He wrote back literally begging me to call him sooner than that so I did and we got together.
To make a long story short, we had fun talking about old times, and he said he couldn't wait to see me again, promised he would call the next week and come to visit, sent me e-mail saying to call him anytime, etc. So guess what happens? I leave him a voice mail about getting together and he e-mails me that he doesn't have time for me right now because of business problems and he will try to call soon! So far the call hasn't come, but I'm not sitting around waiting for the phone to ring.
It became apparent to me that he has some financial problems, and in addition, he asked me two or three times when we were together if I had money because I was talking about a trip to Vegas! I'm sure if I told him I owned a five million dollar house in Beverly Hills, Ca. he wouldn't have been too busy to call me!
My point is it's easy for middle aged women like Donna Hanover, Suzanne Phleshette, etc. to snare an old flame because they are wealthy and not middle class like I am. Even though I am still very attractive (even my old crush told me I was very pretty), it doesn't matter in the real world, the bottom line is most middle aged men are looking for wealthy middle aged women or the young Barbie type for a trophy wife (his second wife fit this category and left him after eight months when he lost his job).
Beware before you look up an old flame, you might just get what you ask for, and all the problems that come with him.
As for me, he will always occupy a small place in my heart and I told him the last time we spoke that I always wish the best for him, but I'm going to leave high school ghosts buried from now on!