At first I cringed when I started reading this book, feeling like it would be another self-help questionnaire book that makes me feel good by doing little writing assignments, but doesn't really move me forward. But this book, combined with regular counseling, helped me conquer what I considered was an anger problem within 3 months. Having worked with this book, I can honestly say it is well worth the work, and I feel a much happier person today. It does require that you actually do the exercises honestly and follow up, and I contend that working with a counselor was also a crucial component. But I know of very few books that actually give you hard and fast tools to master your responses and change your own circumstances. It's too easy to say "take deep breaths" or "think of a happy place", and hundreds of advice books sell you that. With this book, I developed a new awareness of my stress, and I was able to re-train my knee-jerk responses to relax, and I respond to life better now, to the greater pleasure of my family.