Young and Adams' "The Ten Commandments of Dating" is one of the best books on the subject out there, if not the best. The authors make the subject very accessible, give examples, and show what happens when you break the dating commandments. The 10 commandments of dating are:
1.) Thou Shalt Get a Life. You cannot have a relationhip with someone until your own life is in order.
2.) Thou Shalt Use Your Brain. Don't let hormones and emotional attachment take over your common sense.
3.) Thou Shalt Be Equally Yoked. You and your partner must be equally yoked in physical, spiritual, and social matters if a relationship is going to work.
4.) That Shalt Take it Slow. It will probably cause some inconvenience, but most bad decisions are correctable, with the negative consequences eventually disappearing. However, if you marry the wrong person, there will be significant negative consequences that will last for the rest of your life.
5.) Thou Shalt Set Clear Boundaries. If you don't, you'll be sorry.
6.) Thou Shalt Save Sex For Later. If you opt for immediate gratification, there will be lasting pain and guilt in the long run.
7.) Thou shalt Not Play House. Cohabitation means enjoying the benefits of marriage without having any of the responsibilities that go along with it. The Houston Chronicle did a study, and couples who live together before marriage are 80% more likely to get divorced.
8.) Thou Shalt Fight Fairly. Handling disagreements constructively is one of the keys to making a relationship work. Read the book to find out how.
9.) Thou Shalt Not Ignore Warning Signs. If you see a red flag, heed it. Don't say, "maybe things will change later." They won't.
10.) Thou Shalt Choose Wisely. Now, apply all of the advice, choose wisely, and find the right person.
This book is excellent. I failed to heed commandments 2, 3, 5, and 9 in a recent dating experience, and I paid the price. Don't do the same. Buy the book and take it seriously.