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on October 1, 2011
This book was a really good read and at some parts I couldn't put it down. The author did his homework with frank literary investigation and useful stats to back his claim. This book was truly a eyeopener and would be a great book for black women and men who have yet to delve into this subject matter. Although, I loved the book and think it is a starter piece for black women looking to date out, if you are a avid reader in this subject like I am it can be a bit of a rehash of words and encouragement stressed in books similar to the subject matter. Here are my pro's and cons.

Pros: A great book with stats to back up the author claim's some BWE(Black Women Empowerment) books and blogs provide here-say and "It has happen to me and a few of my friends, claims" but only a few back it up with thoughtful analysis and long tested statistics. The book has an in depth bibliography and work cite descriptions to back his statements as facts instead of a well thought out hypothesis, numbers don't often lie. The great thing is this book is from a black man, finally and not a black woman which only proves that it is time for Sister's to be open to more options.

Although, there are a few one star's(Who I doubt really read the book all the way through if at all) reviews that report he is only telling black women to date white men this can be further from the truth. He is telling black women that are willing to go against the grain to date not only white men but Latino, Asian, Multi-Cultural, etc. and yes Black men that are equally compatible to you and not just date a man that is black because you are black. He stated it with not only claims but facts(Multiple accounts of the effects of a low income spouse with their high income spouses and unfortunately one account of abuse and the devastating outcome) of what occur when women of all races date men that aren't compatible to you and how it not only affects the women but also the men and even more the children they produce. Marriage based on compatibility of personalities, life experience and expectations is a must.

Cons: There are more then enough BWE books(One great one for only $5 bucks for Kindle),blogs and groups that tell black women to date out so I don't think he should have stressed this fact so often. It almost felt like there should have been a title change in the book "Is Marriage for White People?: How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Black Women and Their Children." instead of the title that was presented.

I read the book waiting for some focus on why some upscale highly educated upper middle class black men that choose not to play the field marry white or other non-black women. This was addressed so lightly in the book that it was almost like it wasn't addressed at all but I believe this subject matter needs to be addressed esp. by a author of this caliber hopefully if your reading this please make another book addressing this matter. I have read one book "Hung" out of many that addressed this matter sincerely but lightly but it has still not been touched in a frank non-bias well-written statistical way. Although, I and others have ideas of why this occurs it would be reassuring to have stat's and analyzed theories to back up the claims instead of hear-say and put whitefronts(brothers/sisters that pose as white men),PBs(political brother/sisters that pose as keeping it real brothers who are really racist), Sultans(Black men that don't want black women to date out because this would decrease their harem of readily available black women) and other negative misogynist people to rest with facts that have little to do with just attraction between bm/ww and more to do with other matters as well(The joke about the two black men and one old white woman and young white woman was just hitting it mildly).

Book was too short and I was shocked to see that I had finished the book when my kindle was only at 50%. Most of the book was filled with bibliography,sources and acknowledgement's. I think if the subject above would have been addressed it would have been longer.

All in all great read and still deserves five stars for it's professionalism and well written analysis.
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