I was taken by the story in this book about Michael Hastings and Andi Parhamovich. This is a sad story of a pointless war, a reporter caught up in himself and a woman who did not fully understand the horrors of Iraq.
Michael deserves to be noted for his honesty. He writes freely about how he put his job as a reporter over his love of his girl, Andi. Over and over and over he picks his job over the woman who loves him. He leaves her for Iraq. He hardly sees her because he is so busy following stories when she gets a job in Iraq to be near her. He cuts short visits with her to go out on "embeds" with the military. He without question put his job ahead of his love.
Yet, Michael Hastings is not original in putting work ahead of love or family. We all do that at one time or another. His story is that he most likely had a more profound moral duty to examine the matter and decide one way or the other about Andi. He needed to either leave Iraq or fess up and tell her right now it's the job over you and that's that. Whatever the case this young and beautiful girl should not have been in a war zone on some romantic escapde. Michael owed her the duty to pick love over the job and get her back to the US or tell her that he couldn't get fully focused right now on her and that she needed to leave Iraq.
His inaction and allowing Andi to follow some love whim by taking a job with an inept effort of some organization in Iraq caused this beautiful soul to get caught up in a dangerous and hate filled place that took her life.
Andi died at the hands of crazed lunatics using God to kill someone they were insanely jealous of--a successful & lovely American who was free and had a lot that these killers did not. She was clearly set up by the people she was trying to help with this ineffective effort by the group she worked for in Iraq.
Andi's mistakes were not uncommon in life--people do all kinds of things for love--it's that the type of a mistake in her case had lethal consequences.
Michael was honest in his shortcomings in regard to Andi which were many. That is to be respected. In his own way he will have to come to terms in how he let her down and then live the rest of his life.