Now at the age of 64 I can understand so many of my thoughts and actions through life. I actually bought this book for my daughter (realising that my exwife was narcissistic) but decided to read it myself. I realised that it also applied to my father and my own childhood. The book is the best thing that ever happened to me. I realise that my behaviour throughout life (very subservient, always wanting to please etc) was actaully not my character at all but 'learned behaviour from my childhood. I am now slowly begining to be myself and it is wonderful.This book delivers what it promises.