Although the book is saturated with Scripture and fun-loving in tone, it is a tragedy that so many Christians cannot see through the spiritual manipulation and proof-texting Lisa employs to prop up her outlandish, irresponsible, demeaning and abusive parenting techniques. I'll tell you what this book is: it is Love and Logic with a Christian spin, and I wouldn't be surprised if there are intellectual property issues there. To be clear, I despise Love and Logic parenting philosopy for its cold and discompassionate approach to children, but Creative Correction takes Love and Logic philosophy to a "whole 'nother level." That is the danger of Love and Logic: people like Lisa Welchel come up with some cruel and unusual applications of it that not only wound children's spirits, but also distort their image of their Heavenly Father.
Here are a few examples: Lisa recommends: --blindfolding children for an hour if they roll their eyes --handcuffing quarreling siblings together --putting quarreling siblings outside, whether it's 30 degrees or 100 degrees --making a child wear boxing gloves all day long for hitting; they are not to be removed for eating; as if this isn't enough torture, she recommends videotaping the child trying to eat popcorn with the boxing gloves. This might be appropriate in the context of a family game night, but not in the context of humiliation and punishment. --burning a few of the child's toys if a child is caught playing with matches (what about putting the matches out of reach or doing some standard fire-safety education?) --pinching a child's tongue with a clothespin for disrespect --pouring hot sauce on a child's tongue --saying "no to reasonable requests such as 'may I go to the bathroom'" in the name of keeping children on their toes in terms of obedience --restraining a one year old in a car seat if the child won't stay in time out (time out is not appropriate for one year olds to begin with, and, with any child, if time out is not "working," change your strategy-- don't restrain them!) --making children stand in the center of the room for a long period of time if they are resisting bedtime ("make it tough" she says) --making a child close the door quietly, like 100 times, for slamming a door
Those are only a few examples. Lisa also takes Scriptures from Proverbs and turns them into physical punishments. It's almost as if she flipped through Proverbs looking for Scriptures she could use as physical punishments. And we wonder why an estimated 80% of Christian kids are leaving the faith in college? There is a connection there.
Christian parents are no doubt well-intentioned, but they've lost a lot of common sense and compassion for their kids along the way. Turning to Creative Correction is one of the greatest mistakes Christian parents can make if they want to truly train up a child in the way he should go. Parents are turning their kids off to Christianity by using tactics like these.
I so respect so much of the work Focus on the Family does, and I especially appreciate Dr. Dobson's concern about wounding children's spirits. That's why I'm a bit confused as to how this book slipped through the cracks and landed a Focus stamp of approval, because, it is, in my opinion, very wounding to children's spirits.
Alternative reads: GRACE-BASED PARENTING, Tim Kimmel WHY CHRISTIAN KIDS REBEL, Tim Kimmel THE DISCIPLINE BOOK, Dr. William Sears THE HAPPIEST BABY/TODDLER ON THE BLOCK, Dr. Harvey Karp KIDS IN CRISIS, Ross Wright THE POCKET PARENT, Gail Reichlin and Caroline Winkler PLAYFUL PARENTING, Denise Chapman Westman (a play therapist) BOUNDARIES WITH KIDS, Cloud and Townsend GENTLE DISCIPLINE, Hilary Flower, (LaLeacheLeagueInternational) BIBLICAL PARENTING, Crystal Lutton FAMILIES WHERE GRACE IS IN PLACE, Jeff VanVonderen