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Something to think about,
This review is from: Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead (Hardcover)
I had heard some of the buzz about this book before I picked it up. Usually I don't do reviews, but I like reading what other people say about books. I'm writing this because I think some of the reviewers are missing what is significant (at least) to me about the book. Of course, Sheryl Sandberg is priviledged. No one in my family would even dream of going to Harvard. There are no doctors in my family. I don't make millions a year. I'm single with no children. Basically I could disregard half of the book. HOWEVER, the other half really struck a cord with me. I've also been criticized for being too direct -- something that is not considered negative for a man. It made me think about how I approach meetings. Do I speak up? Do I wait for someone else to ask a question so I won't have to? Do I sit at the table? Do I have a voice that says I'm not qualified? Am I an imposter? Thinking about these questions made me realize that I can be passive about my career choices. There's a young man in my department who is new to the industry and training for his new position. Every meeting he speaks up. Even though some of his questions and comments are boarderline embarrassing, I guarantee upper management knows who he is. It doesn't bother him at all to ask those questions. It's an interesting contrast to all the women just sitting there.
The best message to take from this book is to be aware of what is going on in the workplace. Take the opportunity to change the inequality. Don't wait for someone to "fix" things for you. When opportunities present themselves jump on them if it's what you want. Take control.
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Initial post: Mar 15, 2013, 3:19:59 AM PDT
Kindle Customer says:
Thank you for writing this review. I too, have sat in those meetings where someone (more often than not, a male) says something off the cuff only to come away with kudos for having such a good idea, for expressing an honest opinion, etc. Given that I may have said the same thing in a previous meeting only to be reprimanded or ignorned makes me wonder "What is the difference?". In my case it was a "good old boy's network." Buying and reading this book based on your review.
Posted on Mar 16, 2013, 11:10:58 AM PDT
Alessandra Forti says:
I completely agree with this review as I've been going through the same. I've started few years ago to look at men to decide what might work for me too. A lot of what this book says can be applied at all level of work. And I agree with some commenters that it is not the first one saying this sort of things, but it is the first one so high profile that generates such public discussion even if it's mostly for the wrong reasons it raises awareness.
Posted on Mar 17, 2013, 8:02:36 PM PDT
Thank-you! You're comments reflect much of what I feel. I also want people to know that while Ms. Sandberg uses Corporate America as her arena---perfectly logical, since that is what she knows---everything she says applies to organizational leadership, as well. If you're a woman who opted to stay home with your children, great for you! Ms. Sandberg is saying that LEADERSHIP should be gender balanced in all that we do---careers, PTO, church, and whatever. The tips she gives help you to "speak the language" of leadership.
Posted on Mar 18, 2013, 9:55:11 AM PDT
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EarthMother - Nice review...but you may have meant to write, ... "Your comments about female vs male thinking are on point."
Also, EarthMother, it's considered rude and pedantic to correct the spelling errors of complete strangers. I suspect Amazon has not hired you to be English police over the customer review community.
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Posted on Mar 19, 2013, 4:13:15 PM PDT
Loyd Eskildson says:
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You're joking, right?
Posted on Mar 20, 2013, 9:42:28 AM PDT
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